My age group consists of late teenagers. People who are 17-19, not young adults but starting to look like them. I will explain the behavior contrast between the genders concerning dating.
In a high school setting, social hierarchies are established to separate the alpha-males from the betas. Women, from what I've seen, only pay attention to the males that appear to have respect from their peers. The male is usually someone who is tall, attractive, and can easily obtain the will of his peers, thus women notice this. They go after men like this, which in all honesty, who can blame them? However, where are the rest of the men in the spectrum? How about the other women?
Well, the betas are usually the weaker males. These "betas" are usually the guys you see off by themselves enjoying each others company, trying to avoid the crowd. Due to their reserved attitude towards the crowd, they condemn themselves to a state of invisibility. One of the factors that stem from women not finding nice guys is because guys like that usually don't go around yelling "I'm a nice guy!" This is all from observation. Of course, you'll have a couple of confident males out there who are popular, nice, and single, they are walking contradictions. Anyways, back to the topic, women don't really notice the betas because high school is really all about image and dating someone unpopular can usually damper that about someone.
Women are also just as likely to be betas due to the nature of their behaviors, especially in the social jungle know as high school. From observation I've seen women carry with themselves a mentality to belittle one another. The mentality appears to be "Oh she's pretty, may be I can hurt that self esteem of hers." Actually, this mentality is common among people, we try to hurt those who appear happy. However, I have met plenty of women who avoid other women and stick to their small group due to their want to detach themselves from the drama of other women. These women are the ones that are worth trying to meet. They are usually nice and can empathize with anybody. These women are the best to be around because they cause less drama and are aware of how stupid some people can be, especially in high school. Their dating life, however, is about as nonexistent as their male beta counterpart. Of course, you do have that occasional couple of betas.
What I said above is what I've seen when it concerns high school students and dating. I know that not everyone fits into a clique and I tried my best not to generalize, but this is what I've seen from observation. I have met women who are "popular" and can understand the plight of non-popular students. And I have also met men who would be counted as "alphas" that exhibit the trait of a beta.
In conclusion, when an individual enters a social setting that requires a precise of understanding of the logistics behind social cues, he will probably enjoy the popular life and women notice popular males more than any other type of men; however, there are people out their who care more about the personality of the individual as oppose to his appearance among his peers, those who care more about the soul are the people that are a rare catch.
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My age group consists of late teenagers. People who are 17-19, not young adults but starting to look like them. I will explain the behavior contrast between the genders concerning dating.
In a high school setting, social hierarchies are established to separate the alpha-males from the betas. Women, from what I've seen, only pay attention to the males that appear to have respect from their peers. The male is usually someone who is tall, attractive, and can easily obtain the will of his peers, thus women notice this. They go after men like this, which in all honesty, who can blame them? However, where are the rest of the men in the spectrum? How about the other women?
Well, the betas are usually the weaker males. These "betas" are usually the guys you see off by themselves enjoying each others company, trying to avoid the crowd. Due to their reserved attitude towards the crowd, they condemn themselves to a state of invisibility. One of the factors that stem from women not finding nice guys is because guys like that usually don't go around yelling "I'm a nice guy!" This is all from observation. Of course, you'll have a couple of confident males out there who are popular, nice, and single, they are walking contradictions. Anyways, back to the topic, women don't really notice the betas because high school is really all about image and dating someone unpopular can usually damper that about someone.
Women are also just as likely to be betas due to the nature of their behaviors, especially in the social jungle know as high school. From observation I've seen women carry with themselves a mentality to belittle one another. The mentality appears to be "Oh she's pretty, may be I can hurt that self esteem of hers." Actually, this mentality is common among people, we try to hurt those who appear happy. However, I have met plenty of women who avoid other women and stick to their small group due to their want to detach themselves from the drama of other women. These women are the ones that are worth trying to meet. They are usually nice and can empathize with anybody. These women are the best to be around because they cause less drama and are aware of how stupid some people can be, especially in high school. Their dating life, however, is about as nonexistent as their male beta counterpart. Of course, you do have that occasional couple of betas.
What I said above is what I've seen when it concerns high school students and dating. I know that not everyone fits into a clique and I tried my best not to generalize, but this is what I've seen from observation. I have met women who are "popular" and can understand the plight of non-popular students. And I have also met men who would be counted as "alphas" that exhibit the trait of a beta.
In conclusion, when an individual enters a social setting that requires a precise of understanding of the logistics behind social cues, he will probably enjoy the popular life and women notice popular males more than any other type of men; however, there are people out their who care more about the personality of the individual as oppose to his appearance among his peers, those who care more about the soul are the people that are a rare catch.