Bitch, please, I'm too socially irrelevant to have people wasting their time with schemes to break me.
Anyway, anger and hate aren't necessarily caused by other people and sadness and pain are. I think not being affected by other people is what makes someone strong. I mean, if you receive a compliment and wanna feel happy because of that it's fine, but you should be able to choose what affects you and what doesn't.
I know we're talking about genders in general, but my argument about ways of hating was only about hate and anger.
Being attacked by schemes is only half what I was talking about. Being attacked by fists is the other half :P
If you become angry or hateful *without* cause then I think that makes you even weaker because it makes you irrational. If you *choose* to feel angry at nothing then you are weaker still because you're even more irrational. Feeling hurt is not a wrong feeling, and to me saying it is weak is only one step away from not tolerating it. But that's beside the point of the original post :P
By talking about feelings other than anger I was simply branching out into talking about different battles of the same war, which is a crude but helpful analogy :)
I don't mind discussing it just because it's off-topic, just so you know. You could beomce angry or hateful because your microwave broke or because someone stole your car or because the weather's bad, whatever, but you probably won't be sad because of that. You'll be sad because someone died or you had a break-up etc. See the difference? I don't tolerate it in myself and when it comes to other people I think they've got to have a reason I agree deserves them feeling like that (and such a reason might be hard to find.)
It's cool, but I don't really get it...Em, explain again how different ways of dealing with pain and sadness makes men inferior/genders equal, please?
I'd be pretty sad as well as angry if my expensive stuff was stolen, to be honest. But then again, I'm not very easily angered :P
I think it depends on what qualifies as a reason for feeling sad because there's a lot of them and some of them cannot be found, but that doesn't make the sadness any less viable or real or painful or unjustifiable.
I see the difference, but I don't think the difference is especially important. Being angry at something like the weather that you can't change is in my mind just as silly as being sad about it.
I think the fact that it is socially unacceptable for men to show their pain and sadness because it isn't "manly" is one thing that puts men in a worse position than women, who don't have social pressure to be "manly" at all and are looked down on less for expressing "non-manly" feelings like pain. That was my point when I brought that up.
As another side-point, not tolerating other people's feelings of sadness (whatever the cause) when those feelings don't strongly impact you is pointless.
I've got to go and get some sleep now (it's 2:30am over here), but I'll be back in a couple of days :)
Well, seeing as I personally agree that sadness and pain SHOULd be looked down upon that argument of yours, from my point of view, puts women in a worse position than men.
Why is "not tolerating other people's feelings of sadness (whatever the cause) when those feelings don't strongly impact you" pointless?
Funny how you say you're gonna go sleep and 'be back in a couple of days'. Alright, buh-bye, half bear!
*my perception is different that yours, so you can't say either men or women is "better". You can have an opinion but you can't make a statement of fact.
Are men better than women or is it the other way 'round?
↑ View this comment's parent
← View full post
Bitch, please, I'm too socially irrelevant to have people wasting their time with schemes to break me.
Anyway, anger and hate aren't necessarily caused by other people and sadness and pain are. I think not being affected by other people is what makes someone strong. I mean, if you receive a compliment and wanna feel happy because of that it's fine, but you should be able to choose what affects you and what doesn't.
I know we're talking about genders in general, but my argument about ways of hating was only about hate and anger.
--
dom180
11 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
Being attacked by schemes is only half what I was talking about. Being attacked by fists is the other half :P
If you become angry or hateful *without* cause then I think that makes you even weaker because it makes you irrational. If you *choose* to feel angry at nothing then you are weaker still because you're even more irrational. Feeling hurt is not a wrong feeling, and to me saying it is weak is only one step away from not tolerating it. But that's beside the point of the original post :P
By talking about feelings other than anger I was simply branching out into talking about different battles of the same war, which is a crude but helpful analogy :)
--
Anonymous Post Author
11 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
I don't mind discussing it just because it's off-topic, just so you know. You could beomce angry or hateful because your microwave broke or because someone stole your car or because the weather's bad, whatever, but you probably won't be sad because of that. You'll be sad because someone died or you had a break-up etc. See the difference? I don't tolerate it in myself and when it comes to other people I think they've got to have a reason I agree deserves them feeling like that (and such a reason might be hard to find.)
It's cool, but I don't really get it...Em, explain again how different ways of dealing with pain and sadness makes men inferior/genders equal, please?
--
dom180
11 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
I'd be pretty sad as well as angry if my expensive stuff was stolen, to be honest. But then again, I'm not very easily angered :P
I think it depends on what qualifies as a reason for feeling sad because there's a lot of them and some of them cannot be found, but that doesn't make the sadness any less viable or real or painful or unjustifiable.
I see the difference, but I don't think the difference is especially important. Being angry at something like the weather that you can't change is in my mind just as silly as being sad about it.
I think the fact that it is socially unacceptable for men to show their pain and sadness because it isn't "manly" is one thing that puts men in a worse position than women, who don't have social pressure to be "manly" at all and are looked down on less for expressing "non-manly" feelings like pain. That was my point when I brought that up.
As another side-point, not tolerating other people's feelings of sadness (whatever the cause) when those feelings don't strongly impact you is pointless.
I've got to go and get some sleep now (it's 2:30am over here), but I'll be back in a couple of days :)
--
Anonymous Post Author
11 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
Well, seeing as I personally agree that sadness and pain SHOULd be looked down upon that argument of yours, from my point of view, puts women in a worse position than men.
Why is "not tolerating other people's feelings of sadness (whatever the cause) when those feelings don't strongly impact you" pointless?
Funny how you say you're gonna go sleep and 'be back in a couple of days'. Alright, buh-bye, half bear!
--
dom180
11 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
I agree, it's all perception. But my perception is different from yours.
Because getting bothered by something that doesn't impact you is pointless period.
I'm going away minus internet for a day in an hour.
--
dom180
11 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
See More Comments =>
*my perception is different that yours, so you can't say either men or women is "better". You can have an opinion but you can't make a statement of fact.