Are lesbian relationships normal?

I feel as if I'm bisexual, we'll start with that. But over the span of a few months, I was able to feel like I had solidly transitioned from straight to bisexual. And now, because I found a girlfriend that I've been with for a few months, I've had feelings of being full on lesbian as well.

I'm not sure if this type of stuff is normal. It feels normal to me to be with my gf, but I don't know how society really views that. I want to make sure that I'm (for the most part) not an outsider in life.

So please- I would like honest opinions on the topic of homosexuality. Don't hold your words back for anybody's sake- whether your answer happens to be yes or no. I want to know

Is It Normal?
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  • stop working about titles and just fuck who makes you happy

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    • Elegantly said. Couldn't phrase it better myself.

      Besides rapists and pedophiles ofcourse those people need help before committing. If they already did it castrate them.

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      • Agreed fully. Life is to short to worry about man made terms when you could just say fuck it and swoop the person of your dreams off their feet

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  • I guarantee that at least one religious nut will start quoting the bible in these comments, but lesbian relationships aren’t really a “novelty” in the way they used to be. I don’t bat an eyelid when I see two women hold hands or a woman tells me about her girlfriend or ex-girlfriend.

    Even on TV the “Plot twist! She’s GAY, how EdGy!” trope is (thankfully) dying out. People just aren’t shocked by lesbian feelings and relationships in the way they used to be.

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    • This is OT, but the most hilarious thing I've ever heard about Bible-thumpers and sex is how some fundamentalist Christian girls are willing to have oral and anal sex before marriage, but they won't have penetrative vaginal sex because they're "saving themselves" for their future husband, when they'll be pure as the driven snow virgins on their wedding night.

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      • Have you heard the “fuck me in the ass cos I love Jesus” song? The song and video are a masterpiece:

        https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=j8ZF_R_j0OY

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        • Thanks for that. I'm have a feeling I watched it years ago, but I'd forgotten about it. Very amusing.

          Fuck me in the ass cause I love Jesus
          The good Lord would want it that way
          Gimme that sweet sensation of a throbbing rationalization
          It's just between you and me
          Cause everyone knows it's the sex that God can't see
          Yeah, my chastity belt has locks
          But sometimes you need to think outside the box.

          I can imagine the finely-honed legal mind of Brett Kavanaugh employing the logic of the song when he was on dates in college.

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        • Haha I found that YouTube cruising couple months ago, so good.

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      • That's some stupidity. Anal and oral aren't okay in marriage, let alone out of marriage.

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        • Where in the Bible does it forbid oral or anal sex?

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          • "[26] For this cause God delivered them up to shameful affections. For their women have changed the natural use into that use which is against nature. [27] And, in like manner, the men also, leaving the natural use of the women, have burned in their lusts one towards another, men with men working that which is filthy, and receiving in themselves the recompense which was due to their error."
            -Romans 1:26-27

            Anal and oral fall under "unnatural acts," which involve deliberate erotic simulation and are paired with or are themselves at least one of the following:
            1) Those participating in the act aren't married
            2) The act does not bring the couple closer to one another
            3) The act cannot create children
            If any of those apply, the act is unnatural and immoral.

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            • Those verses are clearly referring exclusively to homosexuality, not oral or anal sex. It is the fact that it is between two members of the same sex that makes it unnatural, not that it is oral or anal sex.

              "1) Those participating in the act aren't married" The Bible never describes this as unnatural, only sinful.
              "2) The act does not bring the couple closer to one another" All forms of sex except rape (which is never called unnatural, but is called sinful) will bring a couple closer together. If pleasure can be derived from it, then it will bring them closer together.
              "3) The act cannot create children" The Bible never says that sex should only be done for the purpose of procreation, nor does it say that sex for a reason other than/incapable of procreation is unnatural or sinful. The term is only used in reference to homosexual relations.

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            • With all due respect, nobody cares enough to listen to anything you said there, unless they've shared those beliefs before they read it. So, what would you think if I were to tell you I've done both of those things? Partaken in "unnatural acts"? And I wonder how you feel about my post in general? I'd like to hear your opinion on it, so that I may follow up by simply stating a single, yet effective phrase as an argument back at you.

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    • Alright- thank you. I just get a lot of doubts in my mind, about practically everything. And I've been having a bit of anxiety as of late about showing my orientation in public

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  • Yeah it's normal, it's weird that anyone is even still asking that. Everyone should've gotten over gay relationships by 2010 at least.

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  • It is normal & it is lovely. :)

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  • Its sadly not normal for two hot girls to be lesbians. For some reason 99.999999% of lesbians are butch with short purple hair.

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    • Lmao yet I'm a femme short haired slin women who's dating a sexy doctor women with a London accent! She's by far hot, we often get stared at when holding hands

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    • I'm not sure someone's preferred appearance matters... :/

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      • It does tho id love to see hot lesbians walking down the street fondling eachother and kissing. How come we only see butch ones!? Is there no god??

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  • In civilised parts of the world, the majority of people really don't care about who you want to spend your time with or have sex with.

    There will probably always be areas where the cultural mindset is determined by what some Iron Age men who'd had religious hallucinations and a thirst for imposing their will on their fellow humans scribbled down in a book. Any sane, sensible person avoids hell-holes like that and rational people also do their best to avoid (and if that's not possible, ignore) blithering idiots who are deluded enough to believe everything in their supposedly holy book.

    Assuming you don't live in a place where non heterosexual people are persecuted by the state or religious whackjobs, you really should try to avoid worrying what others think of your sexual orientation. You should focus on living your life in the best way you can. What others think about you is their problem, not yours.

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  • Of course it’s normal!

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    • Normal society wise. Evolutional wise its inefficient. But humans dont really follow the evolutional norms so your fine.

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  • Yep yep! Fellow wee gay women here 🏳️‍🌈👭

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  • Apparently, lesbian relationships are more likely to have domestic violence by quite a significant margin.

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    • How about some statistics on that? I'm not denying some lesbian relationships include violence, but I doubt very much if by a "significant margin" compared to male/female relationships.

      I've experienced violence in both lesbian & het relationships, by the way.

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      • http://dev.cjcenter.org/_files/cvi/IPV%20Sexual%20Orientation%20Report%20for%20web.pdf

        I'm sorry to hear that you've experienced domestic violence.

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        • So I did some more research on this, and the CDC did a study on this in 2010. I’m not sure if the study itself is online but Wikipedia cites it in this article https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domestic_violence_in_same-sex_relationships

          “ In a 2010 Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) study, reporting on domestic violence in the U.S., 26% of gay men and 37.3% of bisexual men said that they experienced physical violence, stalking, or rape by their partners of which 90.7% and 78.5% (respectively) were male.[22] 29% of heterosexual men reported similar violence in the same study (with 99.5% of perpetrators being female).
          The CDC also stated that 43.8% of lesbian women reported experiencing physical violence, stalking, or rape by their partners. However, the study notes that, out of those 43.8%, only two thirds (67.4%) were female (as lesbian women tend to be in heterosexual relationships before they come out), which would narrow the actual statistic down to 29.6%. In contrast, 35% of heterosexual women and 61.1% of bisexual women reported physical violence, stalking, or rape by their partners in the same study with 98.7% and 89.5% (respectively) of perpetrators being male.[22]”

          So 29.6% of lesbians have experienced domestic violence from a female partner and 34.6% of heterosexual women have experienced domestic violence from a male partner, and among the 61.1 of bisexual women who have experienced domestic violence, 89.5% of them were with male partners. So while domestic violence certainly occurs in lesbian relationships, it’s still far more common in straight relationships.

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        • Based on the wording used here, I’m not sure this really says that.

          1)Respondents are categorized as heterosexual or non-heterosexual based on their dating history, not self identifying. If somebody has been in a same sex relationship, they’re a non-heterosexual, for the purposes of this study.

          2)I may be missing something here, but I don’t THINK this study explicitly says that the violence reported occurred in a non-heterosexual relationship? So, for example, a woman who has dated both men and women but has been the target of violence from only a man or men they dated...would be listed as a non-heterosexual who has experienced domestic violence, in this study. Again, I could be reading this part wrong.

          3)This doesn’t differentiate between gay men and lesbians.

          There’s too much information lacking here to really draw any conclusions, IMO.

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      • I'd agree! I'd think hetro relationships would experience far more violence due to the men and their testosterone levels

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  • It's quite normal to experiment with different sexualities; and find what is right for you.

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