Are guys always that confusing?

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Okay so I know this guy online for about 2 years and we talk alot and are like soul mates best friends. (keep in mind I am learning psychology but I've never seen anything like this) look I can't confirm yet if I have feelings for him yet but him, he's pretty obvious. He makes time for me and shows me cute animal posts to make my morning and and he sends me hearts, "I love you" before going to sleep. we even talk about sexual stuff, and keep asking me stuff personal and I'm comfortable with it tho. But Even his vibe in texting, it feels like he just likes me. And there are other signs that he has likes me and stuff. But one day he told me he likes someone (he told who it was it wasn't me) and I was like.. "What 🧍‍♀️"... That day I wasn't focused on anything or even my studies.. Was he using me this whole time? Because he kept asking me sexual stuff. He does it alot. Does he have feelings for me but he hides it by telling he likes someone else? bro smth not adding up. Is he planning smth WHAT IS HE DOINGGGG I AM CONFUSED. someone tell me cuz I'd be crying if he actually likes that other person, and not me. 🚪🚶‍♀️

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  • LloydAsher
    2 years ago | pl

    Just fucking ask him. He cant read your mind so just ask like a normal person when they want something.

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    • Iwjwnw99
      2 years ago

      I am going to ask him today wtf is going on in his head

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      • Curiouskitten444
        2 years ago

        Good luck!

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      • thepuppet
        2 years ago

        you should have an honest conversation with him yeah, bringing up similar stuff to what u outlined in this post

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  • PurpleHoneycomb
    2 years ago

    Guys talk about sexual topics with their friends.

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    • Iwjwnw99
      2 years ago

      Even girls? and asking them about "personal" stuff they do in their "lives" ?

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      • PurpleHoneycomb
        2 years ago

        Yep, although that mostly happens when they're close friends. Some guys obviously aren't going to be this way, but a lot of men just aren't afraid of topics like those.

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        • thepuppet
          2 years ago

          can confirm this, if you've been close friends for two years (even online) this would seem super normal to me

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  • LornaMae
    2 years ago

    Sounds like he does like you as a friend but that he doesn't like like you.

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  • RoseIsabella
    2 years ago

    Maybe he's just trying to pick your brain to try to understand women in general, but I rather feel that he's love bombing you, and manipulating you for the information. He seems quite phony to me.

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    • Irizu3748392746483938
      2 years ago

      You think everyone is manipulating somebody lol.

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    • Iwjwnw99
      2 years ago

      But he could've searched up and know about women. Hes all of the sudden like this past 2 weeks and it would make them hella sus. And why would he manipulate or bomb me all of the sudden too

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      • Irizu3748392746483938
        2 years ago

        Don't listen to her. She always says that.

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        • Iwjwnw99
          2 years ago

          Idk bruh yall saying diff things idk which to believe or what to do ;-;

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          • Irizu3748392746483938
            2 years ago

            Just do what you think is right goddamn.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    2 years ago

    My 2 cents is that either he likes you and this is a ploy to make you jealous or he likes you as a friend and thinks you’re sexually attractive but doesn’t see you as girlfriend material.

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    • Iwjwnw99
      2 years ago

      There's more chance of the first one because he's def not the second type. Thank you for telling me

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  • MonteMetcalfe
    2 years ago

    Maybe he felt you didn't want to be anything more than just friends?

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    • Iwjwnw99
      2 years ago

      I never showed him that tho but maybe I did. But How do I fix that?

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      • MonteMetcalfe
        2 years ago

        - You risk the friendship by telling him how you feel about him.
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        -You leave it as it is and have to listen to him talk about someone else in his life wishing the whole time that it was you he was talking about.

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  • Grunewald
    2 years ago

    This is going to sound brutal, but this might be his way of 'breaking up': acting like the thing with you wasn't even a thing to begin with. In pop psychology I believe it's called gaslighting, and it's a form of manipulation. That is, unless he isn't aware enough of himself and his feelings to notice the calibre of the friendship and the way it has progressed, and the way his feelings have moved in one direction or another. If he just isn't aware, he will perhaps not easily remember the desire that he might have had for you in the past and that he now might no longer have, and so what he is doing will seem natural to him.

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