Are "brojobs" more common than we think????

Guys like head. What''s better than getting blown? And for guys, unless you're in love with the girl, it's just good times. And apparently, there's a fair number of gay guys who just love to give head with no strings, no romance, it's just another past time, like stopping by another friend's house for some xbox or a couple beers. No romance, no drama, no ties, just a friend who wants one thing taking care of a friend who wants another thing. It seems like a sound arrangement, and as someone who studied history, an apparently common one. Christ, until a few decades ago, even the military would give a pass to someone caught on the receiving end of a BJ. Getting the BJ wasn't gay, just the giving.

I grew up with a gay brother, 12 years ahead of me, so I guess this is where my curiosity comes from. He's long dead, but what I leaned from him still rings around in my brain.(No, we never did that!) I remember normal, regular guys who he took care of, and it seems like a great arrangement. He liked sucking dick and their wives and GFs didn't. Those guys still loved pussy, but also clearly loved a steady source of head. It was just two guys, both knowing that it was just BJ. No fuss, no muss, no commitments or drama. So is this actually a hidden underground thing in our society like it was in so many others? I think so. Maybe I'm wrong, but it seems like a pretty good arrangement. I've never been blown by a dude (I'm 47), but I'm starting to wonder. Many women, especially as you get older, aren't into oral (or sex at all), but if another guy will get you off as a friendly gesture, without looking for anything in return, and totally knows that you're not going to be his BF, I'm thinking that a lot of guys would take the offer.

I was told that the pattern is usually the same. A guy knows or suspects that he's got someone who will give him a BJ but resists it because it's "gay". Then one day, he's either drunk or super horny (or some combination of the two) and decides to go for it. He makes himself available and gets blown. The minute he cums, he's beset by guilt and shame and runs out of there like his hair is on fire. Maybe a few weeks or months pass and he finds himself in the same situation. He's thought about it and has realized that nobody knew, his mother didn't see it in his eyes, his friends didn't suspect, he didn't suddenly like dick or stop loving pussy, and hey, it was an easy blowjob! He didn't have to butter the guy up, buy him dinner, convince him to do it, and the guy didn't profess his love or stalk him after it was over. It was just a BJ and nothing more. And he might have even lucked into finding someone with advanced skills who made it his mission to make the guy's head implode. So he gives in again and gets another one. He's again stricken by shame, but it's nowhere like the last time. Now a shorter time elapses and he finds himself back again. After about the third time, as I think my brother put it, they start regarding you like a drive through! No shame, no hesitation, he realizes that it really is just like stopping by for a beer. He's horny, he asks to swing by, and it's taken care of. He has a bad day at work, stuck out at the bars, is stressing over something stupid, and decides that he could use a blow job right about then, so he gets one. Easy, uncomplicated, and maybe even something to chuckle about afterwards.

For guys, sex is just fun, it's horseplay most of the time, so if a strings free blowjob is out there, and no one would ever know, is it actually more common than even I would think to take it? Sorry to ramble, it just seems like free money in a lot of ways, wondering how many people take it but never tell. To hear gay guys talk, the key to blowing a straight guy is either trust or a six pack.