Why are you so limited? There are many different forms of cheating, and people do it all the time. Cheating on work, test, out of situations, and more; if you're going to focus so hard on one deceiving act, why not on them all?
My point is, cheating sucks, but romantic relationships have a lot more rules than a friendship. You're not bound to this guy in some "monogamous" friendship lol; there's no such thing. So if he does lie, his lies to you would be rather trivial at best, and the most hurtful would be him not paying you back money he borrowed or telling secrets you've told him (which you should only do with best friends you trust btw). If he seems like a fun person to hang around, then go for it, and warn your friends who seem interested in him about his past; otherwise, what he does in his personal time isn't any of your business.
How can I just ignore that part of someone though? People always tell me how horrible cheating is and I don't want to be friends with someone if I know they can't treat other people with respect (best case scenario they are a huge hypocrite and that isn't a good quality either.)
Although you're not in a position to be cheated on by this guy, what's probably upsetting you and making overreact is the fact of knowing.
Some cheaters redeem themselves, and some don't. Look at him for the person he is now, and see if he learned from his past mistakes. However, it you rather deem a lousy friend without further consideration on whether he changed or not, then ignore him.
Are all cheaters bad people? Should you associate with them?
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Why are you so limited? There are many different forms of cheating, and people do it all the time. Cheating on work, test, out of situations, and more; if you're going to focus so hard on one deceiving act, why not on them all?
My point is, cheating sucks, but romantic relationships have a lot more rules than a friendship. You're not bound to this guy in some "monogamous" friendship lol; there's no such thing. So if he does lie, his lies to you would be rather trivial at best, and the most hurtful would be him not paying you back money he borrowed or telling secrets you've told him (which you should only do with best friends you trust btw). If he seems like a fun person to hang around, then go for it, and warn your friends who seem interested in him about his past; otherwise, what he does in his personal time isn't any of your business.
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How can I just ignore that part of someone though? People always tell me how horrible cheating is and I don't want to be friends with someone if I know they can't treat other people with respect (best case scenario they are a huge hypocrite and that isn't a good quality either.)
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Although you're not in a position to be cheated on by this guy, what's probably upsetting you and making overreact is the fact of knowing.
Some cheaters redeem themselves, and some don't. Look at him for the person he is now, and see if he learned from his past mistakes. However, it you rather deem a lousy friend without further consideration on whether he changed or not, then ignore him.