My opinion on this is that you're trying to deal logically with an illogical situation.
I know how you feel, because my father was a mean drunk. Almost every night he'd go on tirades, cutting us to pieces with a barrage of the worst insults on earth. The next day, he didn't remember. It became an issue of what was more hurtful, the rants themselves or him not owning up to what he said/did. Like you are doing, we tried to deal with it logically, but that doesn't work. I found, with this sort of issue, you can really only work FORWARD, not backwards. No matter what, you're never going to be satisfied if you are trying to sort out the past because it's impossible, you guys were drunk. You're both going to be in defensive mode since you're both trying to be 'right'. Whether one person actually is more 'right' than the other is really a non-issue with such a situation. Drunks don't remember specifics, you're never going to get an apology for specific incidents. If you're lucky, you may get a broad, general apology for 'whatever I've done'.
Best thing to do is, both agree that whatever happened shouldn't have happened, you were both drunk and acting irrationally. All you should be focused on is making sure this NEVER happens again. Forgive each other, move on and most importantly commit to never getting into this spot by either not drinking or seriously monitoring your alcohol intake.
Hopefully if you can try to make the situation less of a me vs you, you can both agree to move on and not blame one another.
If you think she has a real problem with drinking then you may want to seriously consider getting away from her FAST because this will only get worse.
Another melodramatic teenage relationship story.
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My opinion on this is that you're trying to deal logically with an illogical situation.
I know how you feel, because my father was a mean drunk. Almost every night he'd go on tirades, cutting us to pieces with a barrage of the worst insults on earth. The next day, he didn't remember. It became an issue of what was more hurtful, the rants themselves or him not owning up to what he said/did. Like you are doing, we tried to deal with it logically, but that doesn't work. I found, with this sort of issue, you can really only work FORWARD, not backwards. No matter what, you're never going to be satisfied if you are trying to sort out the past because it's impossible, you guys were drunk. You're both going to be in defensive mode since you're both trying to be 'right'. Whether one person actually is more 'right' than the other is really a non-issue with such a situation. Drunks don't remember specifics, you're never going to get an apology for specific incidents. If you're lucky, you may get a broad, general apology for 'whatever I've done'.
Best thing to do is, both agree that whatever happened shouldn't have happened, you were both drunk and acting irrationally. All you should be focused on is making sure this NEVER happens again. Forgive each other, move on and most importantly commit to never getting into this spot by either not drinking or seriously monitoring your alcohol intake.
Hopefully if you can try to make the situation less of a me vs you, you can both agree to move on and not blame one another.
If you think she has a real problem with drinking then you may want to seriously consider getting away from her FAST because this will only get worse.