Am i wrong or is my dad wrong?

I work in a a small family restaurant along ( while studying) with my parents and my three sisters. And i just really want too quit and get a other job. My dad gets mad easily when i make a mistake (like me forgetting a drink for a customer or when i put the wrong sauce on a dish) and it's upsetting me. We have a bad relation since i can barely speak Chinese and he can't speak Dutch well enough to extract feelings out of my words. So everytime he yells at me i just feel useless. He starts to call me dumb, ignorant and ungratefull wich leads me to think i really am. But when i get a bit calmer i'd start to think about what i am sacrificing to work there. I've been working there since i was 12 years old, every weekend and 1 or 2 weekdays. I used to get paid like 60 dollars from 3 days of work (~ 15 hours) until i got 18. Since then i've gotten a fair decent paycheck. I didn't complain about my low wage back then because he said on multiple occasions he'd buy a car for me for those unpaid hours. Since i got 18 i had to work with my father in the kitchen and since then i feel like it's been going wrong. Yes i might not be the sharpest person while working but i do try my best. But it feels like he won't recognize the good im doing only the bad.
I might be a bad son, since i don't talk with my family and dont try to bond with them hard enough but they treated me like that my whole life. Work always came first for my father. When i was young i never had quality time or a nice conversation about life and my feelings with neither of my parents. So i kinda blame my neglected childhood for my asocial behaviour. So i got a bit lonely and depressed in my early teen years, developed a weed addiction and it only made our relationship worse since he now judges me as a bad junkie teen who fights and steals. Even though i'd never hurt another person in any way.
I don't put much effort into school neither even though i really want to graduate and get a good job. I was smart enough to pass high school without studying, but now i'm wasting my years at college because i have problems studying more advanced complex stuff.
I remember my dad used to yell and fight with my mom in front of our eyes. He always raised me with fear and authority, he also used to hit me when i did something wrong (he didn't beat me up but a slap with a spoon or he pinched my thigh) but that was before i was 12, the physical punishment stopped there.
The problem is if i'd quit my work there then ill forsaken my hardworking sisters and mother. I know if i'll quit my dad would be too greedy to hire someone else so that way ill make my family work even harder then they are. Please advice me i feel like im stuck in this depressing loophole. It feels like a only have a few big options here.
1. Continue working and try to get degree, but i might be working there for another 10 years and i absolutely hate working with my family because of all the heated fights.
2 i can also just quit working there but then again i will abandon my family and i would feel so guilty about that.
3 just cut of all connections with my family and move away alone. I dont have much money but if a get another job ill be able to rent a small dorm for myself. I dont feel connectef to them at all, but i ofcourse love them and i would definately give my life for them. Even for my dad, even though he thinks i hate him. (Wich i do some time)