Am i wrong because i want to live alone even though i’m married?

I grew up moving around a lot. I have an itch to do it every few years that my husband doesn’t understand. I hate our current apartment. It’s big, old and ugly. He doesn’t want to move. We got a good deal on rent. I never lived by myself and have always wanted to do it. I don’t want to wait till I’m widowed. I love my husband very much but I just need space to do things my way that are different from how we currently live and are too comfortable. I hope I don’t sound selfish.

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  • Boojum

    I wonder how long you've been together. After a few years, the "grass is greener" thing often kicks in. Sometimes it is better on the other side of the fence, but sometimes it's not. Such is life.

    If the apartment is indeed big, maybe there's a part of it you can make your own, so you'll have your own space to arrange as you like and retreat to now and then? Too much time together and a lack of personal space can ruin a relationship just as much as too little time together.

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  • Fluteplayer101

    Sounds like from home alone “when I get older and get married I’m living alone” Lol
    I’m living alone! I’m living alone!

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    go git a hotel room alone for the weekend

    maybe yalls feller can stop by for some dirty deeds and immediately after yall can say git the fuck outta my room (and ill see you soon darlin)

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    • RoseIsabella

      Actually, that is a good idea.

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  • RoseIsabella

    What stands out to me is that you said that you have never lived alone. I don't think you should move out of the apartment, and away from your husband if you still love him. I can on the other hand understand you're being restless, because you have never lived alone. I think you could serve yourself well to take a class or two somewhere just for fun, self enlightenment, or maybe even take a couple of courses on a subject of interest to you at your local community college. I also think you could try to find a hobby, or hobbies independent of your spouse.

    Is your marriage happy other than this restlessness you have described?

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    • Indigo1

      golden <3

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      • RoseIsabella

        Thanks, you have inspired me to buy gold hoop earrings, and pretend that I'm a pirate. I just need to buy more rum! 🐒

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        • palehorse

          That was so random and I love it.

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          • RoseIsabella

            Thanks!

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  • mia500

    Maybe tell him you'd like to periodically spend some time in a motel or hotel nearby? Just explain you'd like some independence and maybe go live alone for a week or so at a time every now and then

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  • litelander8

    YOLO

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