The fact that she doesn't have a job, a car and "no money" should give you red flags. Not to mention the fact that the girl wouldn't even bother to pay for coffee, after you offered to fly her ass out to where you are and pretty much all expenses paid.
Also, she doesn't want to get a job, yet complains about not having money and then talks about going to other places to spend money she doesn't have (or expects other people to pay for her)
Double-check your situation. I'm only giving you advice from what you've told us and my own experience. It's not your responsibility to take care of her and HER kid, even if there are genuine feelings on your end, if you allow her to move in with you knowing what you know; you might just be paying for everything and who knows how long til she gets a job and a car, if at all.
Wanting to spend time with your kid is fine. But no parent who works full time or part time will be able to do it for 21 hours out of the day, unless they have time off. She's just using the kid as an excuse to not work.
Make her lazy ass get a job and a car before she moves in. Then see how much her attitude changes.
Am I wrong??
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The fact that she doesn't have a job, a car and "no money" should give you red flags. Not to mention the fact that the girl wouldn't even bother to pay for coffee, after you offered to fly her ass out to where you are and pretty much all expenses paid.
Also, she doesn't want to get a job, yet complains about not having money and then talks about going to other places to spend money she doesn't have (or expects other people to pay for her)
Double-check your situation. I'm only giving you advice from what you've told us and my own experience. It's not your responsibility to take care of her and HER kid, even if there are genuine feelings on your end, if you allow her to move in with you knowing what you know; you might just be paying for everything and who knows how long til she gets a job and a car, if at all.
Wanting to spend time with your kid is fine. But no parent who works full time or part time will be able to do it for 21 hours out of the day, unless they have time off. She's just using the kid as an excuse to not work.
Make her lazy ass get a job and a car before she moves in. Then see how much her attitude changes.