Wow, you are in a situation!!!
Perhaps she has fallen into a rut since her divorce, maybe she isn't as motivated etc as before.
Do you feel like you could talk with her about this? Maybe say...
It would be nice to live closer to her but your worried since she doesn't work, as you may not be able to afford to keep the three of you.
Perhaps start suggesting jobs you have seen advertised in your area and offer to help out a little with day care if she needs it. Even if she only works 2-3 days a week. Sounds like she should do something.
How does she travel without a car?
Maybe suggest that you will need your set of wheels to travel to your work so perhaps if she saved for a car it would make her life easier.
Surely you can talk if you sometimes talk upto 15 hrs on wknds.
Maybe you can tell her you really like her personality etc, however if you were to become more involved, then somethings would have to change.
Maybe you can talk to her about how she feels since the divorce, if there are things about her that she would like to change.
I completely agree with you visiting her, HUGE indication of what life will be like with her.
You want to love her, not for her to be a burden, so unless you can see it working in your favour, be careful!!!
Suggest that if she got child payments from father, then she wouldn't be so poor. When she whinges, that's a perfect opportunity for you to suggest a change or solution!!!
Goodluck, think it through and be careful. Keep us posted! :)
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Wow, you are in a situation!!!
Perhaps she has fallen into a rut since her divorce, maybe she isn't as motivated etc as before.
Do you feel like you could talk with her about this? Maybe say...
It would be nice to live closer to her but your worried since she doesn't work, as you may not be able to afford to keep the three of you.
Perhaps start suggesting jobs you have seen advertised in your area and offer to help out a little with day care if she needs it. Even if she only works 2-3 days a week. Sounds like she should do something.
How does she travel without a car?
Maybe suggest that you will need your set of wheels to travel to your work so perhaps if she saved for a car it would make her life easier.
Surely you can talk if you sometimes talk upto 15 hrs on wknds.
Maybe you can tell her you really like her personality etc, however if you were to become more involved, then somethings would have to change.
Maybe you can talk to her about how she feels since the divorce, if there are things about her that she would like to change.
I completely agree with you visiting her, HUGE indication of what life will be like with her.
You want to love her, not for her to be a burden, so unless you can see it working in your favour, be careful!!!
Suggest that if she got child payments from father, then she wouldn't be so poor. When she whinges, that's a perfect opportunity for you to suggest a change or solution!!!
Goodluck, think it through and be careful. Keep us posted! :)