Am i too dependent on others?

It feels like nothing I achieved had meaning unless I did it together with someone else, for example studying, setting goals. I can do anything with huge determination and fun if it's with someone and it gets us closer. My boyfriend's schedule is too busy for that. I don't have any friends because all people I meet are too mediocre or too different from me. I can't live normally without a close like-minded friend. Is this normal? Or is it not and I should find a way to be ok on my own?

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  • NashamaTheWeird

    It is great to be close to other people, but it is also important to be ok on your own as you might not always have other people to fall back on.

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  • imweirdwhocares

    i feel you. sometimes i find myself in a state whereby you feel empty without like-minded people. maybe take this time to find yourself. i know it sucks to actually do things on your own or like some things have to be done with accompany. spend more time in hobbies so you'll feel more "you" and soon you'll feel you don't really need people to always be with ya =)

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  • Sudofato

    Relying on others in this way is a very common condition and can easily lead to depression if left alone for to long (months or years). It is not a bad thing, if you have many people to spend time with, which it seems you do not. Getting out of this condition is extremely tough, and will require you to work with someone, such as a psychiatrist, to help motivate and guide you. The person(s) to help with this is mostly to see your results from an outside perspective, because judging ourselves is to difficult and often different than what is really happening. Same with a family member, or close friend that has known you for a long time, because they will see your entire life, and compare your now to your then. I think you should work on being ok alone as well as make more friends. The more friends thing is not only to help your future with this condition, but to also add more friends in your life, because friends are awesome. I know most people to you are 'mediocre' but that doesn't mean everyone is. Keep putting yourself (with and/or without your boyfriend) in situations where you can meet more people. Eventually you will meet some people that you like, and are willing to stay in touch with, and spend more and more time with. Even if it's just one out of every thousand people you meet.

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