So it is kinda my fault... I said some pretty bad shit to him. He hasn't even apologized or talked to me yet. I feel like I should say something first or maybe even apologize.
Doesn't matter. Two wrongs don't make a right. And unless it's self-defense, you don't lay a hand on anyone, ever. You can apologize on your end but he should apologize as well. If your relationship can escalate to this intensity, it is healthiest for the both of you to walk away and soul search as to why you feel such strong emotions and frustrations pent up inside you. Once you figure that out, you can avoid having to lash out, but most importantly, avoid falling into abusive relationships. Be kind to yourself, first and foremost, bc that is the only way things in your life will fall into their proper place. Sending you good wishes!! 😊
Yeah we both apologized now.
We argue regularly but never this intense before. The last time I was really mad at him was when he persuaded me to loose my virginity and I was 17. I didn't know any better since my parents kicked me out in the middle of highschool. I still kinda regret it now because I wasn't ready and was suffering from sexual abuse. I got really mad when he kept trying to make me sleep with him and I called him a pedophile that's when he slapped me. But once again I felt like it was my fault because I called him disgusting name, and he ignored me for days. I Felt so guilty that I slept with him, and tried to forget about the heated argument we had.
Now I'm starting to think maybe I stayed with him so long because I felt unwanted and thrown out like trash by people who should have loved me. I never got any nicer treatment from someone that close to me.
But I think leaving him is the right thing to do now. And thank you that means a lot to me to hear that even from a stranger.
He's sounds like an opportunistic piece of shit who took advantage of your innocence and vulnerability. SHAME ON HIM! I officially declare him a massive piece of shit! He's notime a good person.
Do whatever you can to empower yourself so you can get out on your own, honey! I support you. I've never met you, but you are in my thoughts and prayers!
He made things worse, and I clunged onto him because I was scared of being alone. Feels good to talk about my problem here, I've been in denial for a long time and blaming my self. I can't believe I almost wanted to forgive him and move on, and continue our relationship. Especially after what he said that started our most recent argument.
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Doesn't matter. Two wrongs don't make a right. And unless it's self-defense, you don't lay a hand on anyone, ever. You can apologize on your end but he should apologize as well. If your relationship can escalate to this intensity, it is healthiest for the both of you to walk away and soul search as to why you feel such strong emotions and frustrations pent up inside you. Once you figure that out, you can avoid having to lash out, but most importantly, avoid falling into abusive relationships. Be kind to yourself, first and foremost, bc that is the only way things in your life will fall into their proper place. Sending you good wishes!! 😊
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Yeah we both apologized now.
We argue regularly but never this intense before. The last time I was really mad at him was when he persuaded me to loose my virginity and I was 17. I didn't know any better since my parents kicked me out in the middle of highschool. I still kinda regret it now because I wasn't ready and was suffering from sexual abuse. I got really mad when he kept trying to make me sleep with him and I called him a pedophile that's when he slapped me. But once again I felt like it was my fault because I called him disgusting name, and he ignored me for days. I Felt so guilty that I slept with him, and tried to forget about the heated argument we had.
Now I'm starting to think maybe I stayed with him so long because I felt unwanted and thrown out like trash by people who should have loved me. I never got any nicer treatment from someone that close to me.
But I think leaving him is the right thing to do now. And thank you that means a lot to me to hear that even from a stranger.
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He's sounds like an opportunistic piece of shit who took advantage of your innocence and vulnerability. SHAME ON HIM! I officially declare him a massive piece of shit! He's notime a good person.
Do whatever you can to empower yourself so you can get out on your own, honey! I support you. I've never met you, but you are in my thoughts and prayers!
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He made things worse, and I clunged onto him because I was scared of being alone. Feels good to talk about my problem here, I've been in denial for a long time and blaming my self. I can't believe I almost wanted to forgive him and move on, and continue our relationship. Especially after what he said that started our most recent argument.
You both need to apologize and try to make this right.
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Yeah thought so, I just hope things can go back to normal.
Nope, it's still not your fault.