Am i shallow for dumping him?

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I'm 28yo

Picked up with a guy I dated previous to my last relationship which I left this past November after 3.5 yrs. He's always liked me, always regretted not being able to have me while I was in my relationship, and jumped in the opportunity to date me once again in January.
For about 2 months we went in a couple dates and had sex here and there spent time together like old times but sex was TERRIBLEEEEEE
I'm used to really good sex and Hes not equipped for my sexual needs at all.
I took a trip to California this last April and was supposed to see him when I got back. I've been flaky with him till up to recently we haven't spoken At all. I'm at a slight risk for running into him in the future due to mutual friends but I mostly just feel bad because I do believe he's a good guy who would have had good intentions with me. A supportive spirit and good with finances and goals... I could introduce him to mom and dad haha....Damn I would have been able to travel a lot (lol) because of his job... Morals and pretty good upbringing... I feel I'm letting my sexual appetite get the best of me

Especially since the guy I've also been dating since January is probably not good for me for long term or serious SMH but that sex is POPPINNNN, we have a friendship, he's my type of guy looks and all. I do believe he's into me enough for me to continue to entertain it lol but I have no idea where this wouid be going. I don't necessarily need it to go anywhere honestly lol

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  • jethro
    8 years ago

    Sex won't last forever. And you ARE 28. 30 is just around the corner and then you are pushing hard at 40. Your "POPPIN" sex days are winding down quickly. Pretty soon you will be left with just wonderful sex memories. Guys will be avoiding you like you are doing to, what even you consider, Mr. Right. Have your fun and live with the consequences. If you can't fix it with Mr. Right, get used to being the old lady with the 20 cats that all the kids talk about. Because, pretty soon the POPPIN sex guys will dump you for the younger, more firm, 20 something girl in the room. You may be relegated to becoming the booty call that doesn't go on dates which are further than the bedroom and longer than the quickie. Bon Appetit mon chu.

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    • dopeXsweet
      8 years ago

      Lol good advice. Thanks

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  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    Sex is a big part of a relationship. If you don't connect in that way, and you don't think it's fixable, then it's a fair reason to quit.
    You may be shallow in other ways, but dumping him for terrible sex isn't the main indicator.

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    • AliceTheSeal
      8 years ago

      Um yes... it kind of is.

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      • victorygin
        8 years ago

        Yeh, I was thinking more the "regretting I can't use him as a travel ticket" and also dating another guy at the same time, were the main indicators of shallowness here, but there's a few... Hard to prioritise, ya know.

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  • chicagogent2004
    8 years ago

    yes sex never lasts for ever with one guy so you need to find a man who loves you and provides for you and later
    you can have sex with a good lover discretely and pick a married man who has as much to lose as you do if he isnt discrete
    i have been with many married white women and never let then own sexually or discretely

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  • Bustinqueafer22
    8 years ago

    I think your reasoning is logical but you still have to be direct,you don't have to tell him your exact reasoning but you mine as well tell the poor guy something.I know I'm not gonna date a girl I personally find ugly just because she is financially stable,its mean to who is your dating,they expect you to enjoy the sex because your together.Girls have wanted to date me on numerous occasions and I said I wasn't interested,sometimes I might have fucked up idk.But I would rather date a girl low on the totem pole who is cute and relatable then one who just has benefit's, when you say it out loud it sounds sad and cruel.

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