Am i selfish if i leave my addict boyfriend

My boyfriend who is 24 is severely addicted to heroin and has been for two years now. I feel like I'm watching him die.

I have an alarm at 1am, 3am, and 5am, to make sure he's sleeping on his side and hasn't thrown up and to make sure he's still breathing here with me. I'm exhausted. I've called 911 several times because he gets unconscious. I've tried everything but send him to jail to get clean. He shakes and sweats when he's sober and is in so much pain. I've even (don't hate me for this) locked him in his room for hours to keep him from getting high.

I love him so much, he means the world to me, and it's killing me watching him fall so hard. I've never seen him cry in my five years of dating him until the day I took his dope away and he begged for it back.

We are both med students, I can barely support myself, we have class hours a day and I work every weekday, my family helps me with money, but I can't keep supporting my jobless boyfriend especially when he's skipping class to get high.

I'm lost. I love him. But I can't watch him kill himself.

Yes it's selfish, but you should still do it 5
Yes it's selfish, you shouldn't do it 4
No it's not selfish, but you should do it 13
No it's not selfish, but you should do it 11
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Comments ( 14 )
  • RoseIsabella

    Tell him it's over if he doesn't go to rehab, then dump him when he refuses to go to rehab.

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  • JewluminatiTits

    Take him to rehab and if he refuses then dump him. If he's not willing to change for the better then he's not worth it.

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  • Diego35LovesHilda29

    Get out as soon as you can or he will drag you down with him.

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    Youre not selfish for wanting to leave him. He is burdening you with his problems and if he won't change, then you need to save yourself and leave him in order to be happy in the long run.

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  • Tessa4213

    it's not selfish, and is a good idea. before he hurts you, leave

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  • Angelandme

    It's not so much that he's checked out of the dance floor as much as he's too high mentally to participate, hence why OP feels guilty because she is the one who will be leaving him alone on the dance floor.

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  • Sol94

    I have to agree with all of the posts. 😕 Try to get him some help, because you can't do this all alone. You've done all you could, and now, it's time for you to get him professional help. Once you seek that help for him, and he refuses it, I would think the best thing to do would be to let him go. 😔 However, if he doesn't, then it would be up to you what happens after that. I hope it all works out.

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  • Filomena

    From my personal expirience, its a fucked up thing to have addict boyfriend. You should get him to rehab but i feel like you have already helped him a lot. Dont sacrifice yourself that much i know you love him but he is going to drag you down with him. He is not in controle of his feelings, addiction is a huge problem so rehab is the only way and ofcourse his will to change

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  • ojimpu

    Tell him to quit it or it's quits between you two. Make sure he knows you mean it and you really love him, but if he won't stop, you gotta drop him.

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  • KoopaTropical

    You will leave when you can't take it anymore. You have not reached that point yet, otherwise you would not be here asking for answers. He is not your husband yet so you can still walk out over something like this. It sounds like he likes heroin more than you, people do what they love to do, plain and simple. At the very least it's time to pull the "i need some time" card and hope that it triggers a response in him after a few days of you walking out on him.

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  • Jimdaslave

    Loose the junky and I'll let u blow me every day cuz ur that stupid 🤔

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  • You seem to be working hard while he's wasting hard. Is that what you want? Imagine life when both of you work that hard to achieve a goal. Dump him

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  • SmokeEverything

    heroins ugly, starts with pain pills. its something worth kicking for sure, there are better drugs out there that are easier to deal with.

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  • satanniggasandpopsicle

    You gotta try to get him some help then.

    rehabilitation, intervention, something.

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