I don't get the bi-romantic thing. Basically you love someone without sexually being attracted to them? Would that not suggest you are attracted to someone like you would be a friend?
Ok, I will write a little thing comparing my feelings towards my crush and my feelings towards someone I like platonically.
1. I get a lot more excited to see my crush.
2. I want to touch my crush a lot more.
3. I would go through ALOT more trouble to hang out with my crush.
Another thing: USUALLY, when I have a crush on someone, I find them more attractive than anyone that I like platonically. However, right now, that is not the case. There is someone I like platonically and I actually think she is prettier than my crush. But this is a huge exception and barely ever happens to me.
The main thing is that when I have a crush, I simply have more feelings towards them than towards people I like platonically. That doesn't necessarily mean someone has to like their crush MORE, just that they have feelings towards their crush that they don't have towards people they like platonically.
Sorry if my explanation isn't that good. I just had my first crush last year and I am not used to explaining my feelings towards my crushes.
You're over complicating things. Do you want to kiss what you call your crush? Do you want to give your crush oral sex? If no to both then it's friendship. You can be excited to see a good friend too.
Yes, I want to kiss my crush. No I don't want to give her oral sex or any other sort of sex.
But I would like to kiss her alot and touch her alot. More than my other friends.
Yes I sometimes get excited to see someone I like in a platonic way, but not nearly as excited. And it's a different type of excited. When I see my crush I get butterflies in my stomach. Also another thing: not everyone is like me. It is possible to have platonic feelings that are even more intense than a crush.
I struggle with it too tbh. Sexual attraction is what takes what would otherwise be a platonic friendship to that level of being romantic. Without sexual attraction, what is your connection to the person? They're just a friend you have a strong attachment to.
I guess if you are willing to form some kind of a "relationship" with the same sex (even if not exclusive attraction to the same), then yeah you are LGBT.
Although I don't understand it, I don't find this "biromantic" or "aromantic" or whatever label quite as offensive as I find all that genderqueer and abiguously "queer" shit (which I really do view as a mockery of LGBT people).
Well I get ALOT more excited to see my crush than when I see my platonic friend. I know that sounds mean but oh well. I also get butterflies around my crush.
Having a "strong attachment" is not the same as romantic attraction.
Am I part of the LGBT community?
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I don't get the bi-romantic thing. Basically you love someone without sexually being attracted to them? Would that not suggest you are attracted to someone like you would be a friend?
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romance without sex IS possible
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How is that different from friendship?
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Ok, I will write a little thing comparing my feelings towards my crush and my feelings towards someone I like platonically.
1. I get a lot more excited to see my crush.
2. I want to touch my crush a lot more.
3. I would go through ALOT more trouble to hang out with my crush.
Another thing: USUALLY, when I have a crush on someone, I find them more attractive than anyone that I like platonically. However, right now, that is not the case. There is someone I like platonically and I actually think she is prettier than my crush. But this is a huge exception and barely ever happens to me.
The main thing is that when I have a crush, I simply have more feelings towards them than towards people I like platonically. That doesn't necessarily mean someone has to like their crush MORE, just that they have feelings towards their crush that they don't have towards people they like platonically.
Sorry if my explanation isn't that good. I just had my first crush last year and I am not used to explaining my feelings towards my crushes.
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You're over complicating things. Do you want to kiss what you call your crush? Do you want to give your crush oral sex? If no to both then it's friendship. You can be excited to see a good friend too.
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Yes, I want to kiss my crush. No I don't want to give her oral sex or any other sort of sex.
But I would like to kiss her alot and touch her alot. More than my other friends.
Yes I sometimes get excited to see someone I like in a platonic way, but not nearly as excited. And it's a different type of excited. When I see my crush I get butterflies in my stomach. Also another thing: not everyone is like me. It is possible to have platonic feelings that are even more intense than a crush.
I struggle with it too tbh. Sexual attraction is what takes what would otherwise be a platonic friendship to that level of being romantic. Without sexual attraction, what is your connection to the person? They're just a friend you have a strong attachment to.
I guess if you are willing to form some kind of a "relationship" with the same sex (even if not exclusive attraction to the same), then yeah you are LGBT.
Although I don't understand it, I don't find this "biromantic" or "aromantic" or whatever label quite as offensive as I find all that genderqueer and abiguously "queer" shit (which I really do view as a mockery of LGBT people).
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Well I get ALOT more excited to see my crush than when I see my platonic friend. I know that sounds mean but oh well. I also get butterflies around my crush.
Having a "strong attachment" is not the same as romantic attraction.