Well, it's your child and kids like her can be a bad influence. However, your child sounds like he has a VERY strong personality, and she wont effect him. Though still she sounds pretty hurtfull, and if I was in your shoes I probably wouldn't want him to hang out with her either.
She sounds like the type to grow up and get in trouble all the time and maybe do drugs...and involve your son in something bad. I would say if she lost your son as a friend maybe she would change and they can hang out again.
You are right, my son is extremely strong willed! In general, I'm not terribly concerned that this girl would talk him into doing something he knew was wrong (the possibility that he might convince her to do something unacceptable is probably actually greater-- she seems very immature for thirteen).
But I don't think it is particularly healthy for a nine-year-old to be put in a position to essentially be the one to "look after" a thirteen-year-old. There is also the matter of her generally negative outlook on life, rudeness, and the tall tales she constantly tells.
After posting about this, I've had some heart-to-heart talks with my son, and he seems to be of the opinion that, while he doesn't want to be "mean" to the girl, he doesn't want to play with her or hang out with her, either. So, we are working on strategies to be kind, while not engaging the girl.
And yes, who knows, perhaps in time she will mature a bit, and the two of them can have a more positive friendship in later years. Thank you for your heartfelt responses.
Am I overreacting to children's bickering? IIN?
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Well, it's your child and kids like her can be a bad influence. However, your child sounds like he has a VERY strong personality, and she wont effect him. Though still she sounds pretty hurtfull, and if I was in your shoes I probably wouldn't want him to hang out with her either.
She sounds like the type to grow up and get in trouble all the time and maybe do drugs...and involve your son in something bad. I would say if she lost your son as a friend maybe she would change and they can hang out again.
I don't know. Do what feels right :)
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You are right, my son is extremely strong willed! In general, I'm not terribly concerned that this girl would talk him into doing something he knew was wrong (the possibility that he might convince her to do something unacceptable is probably actually greater-- she seems very immature for thirteen).
But I don't think it is particularly healthy for a nine-year-old to be put in a position to essentially be the one to "look after" a thirteen-year-old. There is also the matter of her generally negative outlook on life, rudeness, and the tall tales she constantly tells.
After posting about this, I've had some heart-to-heart talks with my son, and he seems to be of the opinion that, while he doesn't want to be "mean" to the girl, he doesn't want to play with her or hang out with her, either. So, we are working on strategies to be kind, while not engaging the girl.
And yes, who knows, perhaps in time she will mature a bit, and the two of them can have a more positive friendship in later years. Thank you for your heartfelt responses.
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Sounds good to me!