Am i overreacting? or is she too clingy?

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I've been friends with this girl for several years. We don't hang out too much, but I work full time and am married and have other friends and family I attempt to make time for. Friend just recently started working with me, and I'm seeing her clinginess much more clear now. If we have break together, she tells me we should spend our break together. She never asks if I already made plans. When we work together, she asks me what I work the rest of the week, then proceeds to tell me which days work for her to hang out. I don't ask her if she wants to hang out, it almost feel like she thinks my free time is reserved for her. Other friends I vent to about this think it's odd of her, some think I'm just being antisocial. What do y'all think? Should I be more assertive and tell her I don't have a lot of free time? She's a very sensitive person, so it's hard to muster up a 'no' sometimes. She never shows up unannounced or anything too bad like that, but I really enjoy my time with my husband and my alone time, but when I try to tell her that, she takes it very personally, and I don't want to hurt her. How would y'all handle this?

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  • karmasAbich
    6 years ago

    Break it off

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  • Jboogie31
    6 years ago

    Maybe she's just lonely or doesn't have any other friends. Sometimes clingy people are that way because they find someone they have things in common with and just want a friend. Just my 10 cents :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I appreciate your reply! She has a boyfriend that lives with her, but I don't think she has many plutonic friends. She probably is just lonely, but I wish she would pick up on my hints of enjoying being alone so I wouldn't have to say no to her as often as I do! -end rant-

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      • JonathanOo
        6 years ago

        Just tell her how you feel. Better than waiting and eventually flipping out on her when she crosses the line

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          Truth, thank you.

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  • Yennifer_Of_Vengerburg
    6 years ago

    If you have some other friends that you can introduce her too I think that would be good for her and you she probably just doesn't know allot of people or have any friends, it's a lonely ass life when you don't have anyone it's enough to drive you crazy.

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  • S12207
    6 years ago

    She sounds very clingy and I understand your frustration. Your best bet is to be honest with her. You're obviously frustrated enough to be inquiring and you shouldn't ever have to hang out with a friend due to obligation or guilt. If she's a good friend she would understand needing your space. She sounds lonely which is really sad but that's not something you can fix for her only she can help that.

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