Am i overreacting?

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My boyfriend of 6 months says he loves me but I don't believe him. He flakes out on our dates every week or at least tries to. For example, I had a friend's birthday party to go to, he said he would go but called a few hours before the party and said he couldn’t make it because he was tired from work. This is his excuse every time: he's tired. I know he's at home, it's not like he's cheating on me or going out with the boys. He calls me during the week, but it feels like obligation and I turn into that girl waiting by the phone and get upset when he does not return phone calls, like tonight. I'm getting very frustrated and feel like a whiner, but I don't see how we can build a relationship on seeing each other a couple of times a week. One of those times I have to either cry or get angry before he agrees to go out.

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  • skimskambone
    13 years ago

    You try going out and working your butt off everyday, then see how full of energy you feel. You're probably the type of girl that will cheat on your hubby bc he works too much. Cut the guy some slack or better yet do him a favor & leave him. Then go out with a bum who has all the time in the world for you then you'll complain he has no money. Do boys a favor--go lezzy & drive another girl nuts--leave guys in peace. kthnxbye.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    It kind of depends how often you're trying to go out & how often he's ditching you.

    Maybe you're asking too much, or maybe he's just being lazy.

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  • Cosmicgiggle
    13 years ago

    Six months or so is about right as far as learning more about our mates. You've eliminated cheating. When did this excuse of tiredness enter the equation, relative to sex (assuming you've had it). Has he always been reserved, even if not this much? Chances are likely that other aspects of his personality are surfacing. Anxiety, laziness, or tiredness ate all reasons yet they can become excuses. Get him to open up and fine tune your female intuition

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Dump him and move on to someone who actually CARES about you. You are not over-reacting. You are right - he's a flake. And don't worry about him. For every flakey guy, there's a girl who expects little & is a doormat. Sad.

    But you aren't a door mat. Good for you.

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  • christine
    14 years ago

    If he cared about you he would WANT to make time for you and be excited to go places with you. It sounds like he just isn't ready for the responsibility of having a REAL girlfriend. You should start casually dating other guy rather than wasting time with one who does not give you the attention you deserve.

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  • orbitgumchewer
    14 years ago

    well first, what does he do at work? if it is actually something that requires energy then maybe he truthfully is tired and doesnt have that urge to go out. On the other hand, you said he is constantly doing this... maybe he is either shy of your friends.. bored of your friends.. or maybe he simply he's a player. It all depends what it is you guys do together and how much he flakes but you should know whats going on..hope it works out

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