I reposted this under "fell in love with my stepdaughter". I also got more specific in asking the question "should my stepdaughter have come to me first or gone straight to her mother". So far the opinions are split exactly 50-50. What is interesting is that almost all of the posts are negative, reflecting what I think is a negative repulsion to the idea of an adult stepfather/stepdaughter relationship. But that was not the question. The question was how she should have handled it.
My wife has undergone far more mental stress about this than I have. I have never committed adultery, she has, in her first marriage. So the net result of the stepdaughter's actions was brought on the head of my wife. The reason for the stepdaughter's conduct was that she lost control of the situation when she told her husband--a very stupid thing to do, since he had a vendetta to repay to my wife. The stepdaughter also has a big "A" on her forhead for an affair with her boss, back about 6 years ago. To the best of my knowlege only one other person in the family (besides myself) doesn't have a big A in their past. She was a minister's wife.
But I am constantly amazed at the self-righteousness of people who shouldn't be throwing glass stones.
Am I normal
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I reposted this under "fell in love with my stepdaughter". I also got more specific in asking the question "should my stepdaughter have come to me first or gone straight to her mother". So far the opinions are split exactly 50-50. What is interesting is that almost all of the posts are negative, reflecting what I think is a negative repulsion to the idea of an adult stepfather/stepdaughter relationship. But that was not the question. The question was how she should have handled it.
My wife has undergone far more mental stress about this than I have. I have never committed adultery, she has, in her first marriage. So the net result of the stepdaughter's actions was brought on the head of my wife. The reason for the stepdaughter's conduct was that she lost control of the situation when she told her husband--a very stupid thing to do, since he had a vendetta to repay to my wife. The stepdaughter also has a big "A" on her forhead for an affair with her boss, back about 6 years ago. To the best of my knowlege only one other person in the family (besides myself) doesn't have a big A in their past. She was a minister's wife.
But I am constantly amazed at the self-righteousness of people who shouldn't be throwing glass stones.