Am i leading guys on...

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Everytime a guy asks me to hangout, I kind of lead them on. Well not really, but they say "Let's hang out" and I say "okay". Then they say "Tell me when you're free", but I never do because I actually don't want to hang out with them. I don't mean to lead them on, but I have a hard time saying no to people so I avoid it and then I get stuck with them asking me 100 times to hang out. I also don't know these people well, so I really don't want to hang out alone with them... Am I actually leading them on, and what should I do?

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  • Geneva5
    12 years ago | pl

    People like you make the world worse. Just sat what you think in the first place.

    Fail !

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  • melee
    13 years ago | pl

    Well, you just don't want to hurt people, but that can wind up biting you in the butt later. Everyone says, "hey we should....whatever.....sometime (go to dinner, go shopping, go to the beach, etc.). People always mean well, but there's nothing wrong with not wanting to hang out with someone you don't know or don't care to really know. Who cares? You don't have to make them feel good. You could A) avoid the person/people if you see them only once in a while B) If you run into them frequently, just tell the truth, kina......you're super-busy these days with {insert something that would keep you busy...job, chores, training your new dog, helping a friend move, writing college essays....) Some people do "get it", they just want to see how far they can push you til you crack and tell the truth. Just be painfully graceful about it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Lol at the comment above! :P

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  • holio
    14 years ago | pl

    They aren't "getting it" so you may want to try just staring at the boys who you've told several times already. If they still don't get it you may have to eventually just come out and say, "I don't think so."

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    • digitalbroken
      13 years ago | pl

      The reason they aren't "getting it" is that you are actually leading them on.

      When they ask you to hang out, and you agree, but then avoid doing so every time they ask--they start to think something is wrong with them, and will likely feel a lot worse than if you just say you aren't very interested from the start.

      And worse, it might take them a long time to come to terms with the fact that you just don't want to hang out with them. It's easy to hold out hope in a situation where the other person is not telling you "no". So they keep trying, thinking maybe this time will be it.

      Many people are not compatible with each other, or not right for each other, and it's best to get those situations out of the way quickly so that you both can move on. Dragging it out will not help either of you.

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