Am i jealousor obssesed or both?

okay so here is my story. I have been in a relationship where arguments don't seem to end. I admit that its mostly because of me i am emotionally sensitive and my boyfriend of 2 years and 11 months is a joker who never knows wen to stop joking. However let me get to the point, i am afraid that i may be obsessed with him or maybe jealous. i want him to be with me every second. i hate it when he is with friends. i feel that he cares more of his stupid friend then me even when he tells me that he cares more of me then them. he is always complaining that he cuts plans with them just to be with me. He told me himself that i am not the center of his world. Later on he tells me that he only said that because he was mad. yes i have asked myself if he still loves me. i cant stop thinking of him. i think of him as i did when we started dating. i check my phone every second to see if he called like right now its 10:22pm and he hasn't called and I'm already impatient. I'm wait on him to call me and it only has been 6 hours since i have seen him.I don't understand that when we started dating we broke up after 4 months and i just felt that it was hard to breath without him. He was like a song in my mind that played over and over. he says that he felt the same when we didn't even share much . I feel that i can't live without him i don't know why....if everything that he is tells me that i shouldn't miss him. i have lost a friend because i wanted to be with him and then her. i have noticed that he is too afraid to lose his friends because he try to satisfy them for the lost time that they weren't together. i don't know what happening inside me. I feel that i only need his attention, his love his arms to keep me warm. but i"m scared what will happen when he is gone? My question is what is happening with me?

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  • what is a jealousor?

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  • I understand your feelings, but it seems like you're a little bit too attached. People need their personal time, too. Not just him, you need to be able to function without him. Me, I can't function if I don't have some time to myself every day. And not just that, but time with other people. I would feel way too smothered and start to resent my partner if they were always there.

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  • What's wrong is you love him, he was a dink and chose his friend over you and y'all broke up.

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  • I know exactly how you feel. I've been exactly like you. He somehow took everything from me, so one day I sat down and REALLY thought of what was wrong with me, and decided to continue my violin carreer and my school. So that I had three passion in my life. It just makes it easier like this. Don't think much about it, and just enjoy this beautiful relationship, but it'll be great if you found another passion in your life? Like your hobbies, school, friends etc. :)

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  • It's a difficult task to be on a relationship.. It's hard to find a line between love and obsession but I totally understand your feelings. But guys are all the same and believe me - if this one leaves, you will find another one.

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  • Love is great but it isn't healthy to put all your happiness on someone else. Find things you like to do with out your boyfriend then time will go by fast when you are away. He might even like you more if you have other interest. It is hard to do but trust me it makes the love sweeter.

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