Give him a warning. Like, a serious warning. Sit down and tell him how his actions make you feel and don't hold back. Let him know that if he doesn't change, you will leave and will not come back. But before you do this - you have to actually believe what you're potentially going to tell him. Build up the courage in the instance that he doesn't change and know that you won't have any second thoughts about leaving the relationship.
Personally, I think the most worrying aspect is that he doesn't even care. There's a difference between a homeless guy (for example) with a passion and yearn for the future, and a homeless guy with no motivation. It would be a completely different story if he was willing to change and actually made the effort to do so.
And since you said that you truly love him, the idea of leaving him might be a hard pill to swallow. But just think - if he really cared about the relationship, don't you think he would put an effort in fixing the apparent problems? Have you ever thought about why exactly he doesn't try?
I'm not saying break up with him. Not at all. That is entirely up to you - considering I don't know the ins and outs of your partnership. All that I'm saying is that if you give him an obvious signal that the relationship could potentially end if he doesn't shape up, and he disregards it - the relationship will not lead to anywhere good.
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Give him a warning. Like, a serious warning. Sit down and tell him how his actions make you feel and don't hold back. Let him know that if he doesn't change, you will leave and will not come back. But before you do this - you have to actually believe what you're potentially going to tell him. Build up the courage in the instance that he doesn't change and know that you won't have any second thoughts about leaving the relationship.
Personally, I think the most worrying aspect is that he doesn't even care. There's a difference between a homeless guy (for example) with a passion and yearn for the future, and a homeless guy with no motivation. It would be a completely different story if he was willing to change and actually made the effort to do so.
And since you said that you truly love him, the idea of leaving him might be a hard pill to swallow. But just think - if he really cared about the relationship, don't you think he would put an effort in fixing the apparent problems? Have you ever thought about why exactly he doesn't try?
I'm not saying break up with him. Not at all. That is entirely up to you - considering I don't know the ins and outs of your partnership. All that I'm saying is that if you give him an obvious signal that the relationship could potentially end if he doesn't shape up, and he disregards it - the relationship will not lead to anywhere good.
Hope this helped. :)