Am i his rebound or no? please read thanks

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I have been dating my boyfriend for 10 months now.

His ex fiance contacted him and I saw the letter she wrote.. she wrote how could you ghost me and not even explain why, I haven't done anything but love you, is it because my sister died and I got depressed etc etc

She actually seemed really sweet and he never spoke badly of her to me. Like I said your ex was a nutcase right and he has always said no she was actually really kind, I can't knock her.

Anywho I read the letter and got me thinking he never told me he ghosted her. He said they had a falling out and that was it.

I asked him and he said yes he did ghost her because she was very emotional and it was hard for him to handle. He got with me 10 months ago and ghosted her...11 MONTHS AGO.

He was with her for a long time too... the one thing I notice with him is he seems distant sometimes or distracted.

Could I be a rebound even though it's 10 months? Is there a time limit on rebounds? I thought rebounds were like a few weeks...

He also will sit and stare a lot into the distance and I'll ask if he's okay and he'll say fine yeah but idk now

No you're not 4
Yes you are a rebound 11
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  • CDmale4fem
    5 years ago

    I feel a rebound is not bound by time limits. If somebody still has feelings for an ex but somehow, like him ghosting her, probably he's wondering the big "What If" question. He more than likely still has unresolved feelings for her even tho he probably split in the middle of the night, or something shifty like that. He's at a point that he is conflicted. Trying to resolve in his mind somehow, the feelings he has/had for her. But still he may have strong feelings for you also. But in the big picture, he doesn't want to hurt either one of you. If I was I your situation I myself am not gonna stick around for the drama and the emotional ordeals that may be soon to follow. Ask him straight up if he still has feelings for her. If he cant look you In the eyes and say no, I would bet my next check he will either look awsy, or try and deny that he does have feelings for her. They had no closure on their relationship. But if I was in your situation, I would walk and go my own way and let them resolve what they need to, then you can return of you feel like you can or want to. Remember in reality, if you and him are in bed having sex, you will wonder for as long as your relationship lasts if he's thinking of her when you are with him. Look out for #1, yourself. Do what your female intuition is telling you. If it's meant to be then it will work out.
    Remember the saying or quote or poem.
    "If you love something, set it free.If it comes back it's yours. If it doesn't it never was." Best of luck.

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  • kelili
    5 years ago

    Based on what you've told I get the feeling that he feels like shit for breaking up with her like this and he has all the reasons to feel so. Are you a rebound? I really can't tell. Maybe he doesn't feel love for her anymore but is being submerged by remorse. The only way to know is to talk about it and expose your doubts.

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  • angryblonde
    5 years ago

    I guess I have an unpopular opinion but I don’t think you’re a rebound. I think a rebound is a person used to get over someone’s ex. You may have initially been a rebound but since you’re still together ten months later, he has to have feelings for you now or he would have thrown you away by now. It’s hard to say. Is he over his ex? If not, you could be a rebound.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Again, huh?

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  • bighairysausage
    5 years ago

    yes

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