Am i friendzoning her?

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So I have this girl friend who claims she's bi. I'm gay and a male. She told me she has a crush on another girl, a friend that's close to her.

I've started seeing her more frequently around a month ago (we were in the same class back in the day but we never talked). I'm often joking around with her about how most people think we're a couple (for example my parents), but I think she might be lying and actually fell in love with me.

She often asks me to: walk her home, come at her house, wait for her at the train station etc. She sometimes even borrows my clothes and that's a thing that couples do. I never before really talked too much to girls neither did I have had any girl friends.

Is what she's doing normal? Do friends do that? Has she secretly fallen in love with me? I don't want to break her heart.

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  • SwickDinging
    5 years ago

    If you are gay then she may treat you similar to a female friend. Girls do shit like wait for each other, walk with each other, go to the bathroom together, borrow each other's clothes etc.

    It's probably normal but just keep an eye on it. I think you'd know if she was starting to want more.

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    • LornaMae
      5 years ago

      I thought something very similar to that so I'm just upvoting your comment. ;)

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  • mauzi
    5 years ago

    if youre actually gay and she knows that then no.

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  • BlindSpot
    5 years ago

    It seems you guys are pretty close, good friends are few, so don't loose a real connection and friendship just because you're afraid. Friends definitely do the things you described.

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  • uhhokay
    5 years ago

    what she is doing is normal however you need to enforce boundaries YOU are comfortable with.

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  • janet_helio
    5 years ago

    If she knows you're gay, then probably it is just a close, platonic friendship.

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    How about you ask her?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Even if I did she would probably deny it even if it was true.

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      • nikkiclaire
        5 years ago

        Talk to her. My instincts say she is in love with you. Love her back.

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  • Columbusbiguy
    5 years ago

    What you describe is a close friend. Now if you guys snuggle under a blanket watching netflicks and she gets handsy, or likes to give little kisses, hold your hand and walk close to you in public, or stuff like that, she MAY like you.

    If you think she is crossing some line, just talk with her, you are obviously close.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      We do give each other little kisses and hold hands.

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      • Columbusbiguy
        5 years ago

        Well im thinking she wants more, friends dont normally do that. The longer you keep allowing it, she may think you are having feelings.

        Just be careful so no one gets hurt. You may want to clarify each others intentions.

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  • JD777
    5 years ago

    Hard to vote since you asked four questions that could have different yes/no answers. So, I answered your title question. Seems you’ve friend zoned her, but she might have something for you. People of the opposite sex sometimes think they can “convert” a gay person back to hetero.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Sorry.

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