I probably wont be the best at pointing out the difference of what I do that is normal vs abnormal.
I have posted about 500 questions here trying to figure that out myself.
Everybody has different standards of what is normal or acceptable. As far as I can tell my biggest challenge is not knowing what any ones standards are until they tell me.
There have been times someone tells me something was inappropriate and I learn to not do it, but I may do something else they say is similar because nobody told me that was inappropriate too, and it did not seem similar to me.
Personally I think I am just entertaining and have interesting topics.
The best example I can give of things I do that upset others is stuff like talking about my dui at a meeting or talking about divorce at a wedding and doing things like giving a card that says my deepest sympathies for your loss, because I thought it would be funny.
Really, those are probably bad examples most people would find amusing, but I tend to unintentionally upset people without knowing why. I really am unable to tell you what I may be doing or if I am even doing anything wrong. That is why I come here to ask in the first place.
Well people are complexe and to give you a better answer I would need to get to know you better :)
From the examples you gave me it seems you enjoy contradictory things. It is amusing for you. Some people just might not get the joke. I think things like in your examples should be avoided until you really get to know someone longer. And you can slowly introduce yourself to them. .. that way they know you are in fact joking and not trying to be insulting.
I upset people too with my blunt honesty... so I tend to make a friend then tell them not to take it personally that im blunt and generally blurt things out... im the friend that if you walk out and say how do I look? Ill give you my honest answer lol... never cruel tho.
but ill at least never let you walk out looking like a hot mess.
I have a friend who says she really appreciates this since she had people lie to her and let her walk around looking a mess.
So maybe after making the friend ease them into your personality and let them know.
Oh, I can think of something that many people have said embarrasses them is how I dress and act in public. I often wear costumes as my regular clothes and tend to talk loudly sometimes.
Many people like this about me as well but some have said they do not want to be seen with me.
Am I doing something wrong?
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I probably wont be the best at pointing out the difference of what I do that is normal vs abnormal.
I have posted about 500 questions here trying to figure that out myself.
Everybody has different standards of what is normal or acceptable. As far as I can tell my biggest challenge is not knowing what any ones standards are until they tell me.
There have been times someone tells me something was inappropriate and I learn to not do it, but I may do something else they say is similar because nobody told me that was inappropriate too, and it did not seem similar to me.
Personally I think I am just entertaining and have interesting topics.
The best example I can give of things I do that upset others is stuff like talking about my dui at a meeting or talking about divorce at a wedding and doing things like giving a card that says my deepest sympathies for your loss, because I thought it would be funny.
Really, those are probably bad examples most people would find amusing, but I tend to unintentionally upset people without knowing why. I really am unable to tell you what I may be doing or if I am even doing anything wrong. That is why I come here to ask in the first place.
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Well people are complexe and to give you a better answer I would need to get to know you better :)
From the examples you gave me it seems you enjoy contradictory things. It is amusing for you. Some people just might not get the joke. I think things like in your examples should be avoided until you really get to know someone longer. And you can slowly introduce yourself to them. .. that way they know you are in fact joking and not trying to be insulting.
I upset people too with my blunt honesty... so I tend to make a friend then tell them not to take it personally that im blunt and generally blurt things out... im the friend that if you walk out and say how do I look? Ill give you my honest answer lol... never cruel tho.
but ill at least never let you walk out looking like a hot mess.
I have a friend who says she really appreciates this since she had people lie to her and let her walk around looking a mess.
So maybe after making the friend ease them into your personality and let them know.
I hope this was at least somewhat helpful
Oh, I can think of something that many people have said embarrasses them is how I dress and act in public. I often wear costumes as my regular clothes and tend to talk loudly sometimes.
Many people like this about me as well but some have said they do not want to be seen with me.
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I didnt see this when I made my post
In regards to my post I would be the person that made sure your costume looked hella fine before we went out :P