Am i bisexual

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(Would like feedback from your comments) I've been dwelling on my sexuality for awhile. I've been sexual attracted to guys though I'm really convinced it a fetish, since I've thought of no other sexual relations to guys who didn't fit the description (fat fetish) for some time but before I was even conscious I've also thought sexual things about girls before as well. I've never wanted to actually date or become in a committed/romantic relationship with a guy (I feel weird thinking about and will never pursue it), I just liked the way how looked and really never focused on their "genitalia" of which I don't really lust over nor want. Recently I've also had more of a physical attraction to woman but not to the same level as I have for men which really frustrates me, wondering why can't it just be equal? I have no problem with the idea of being in a relationship with a woman, but something in my chest comes up sometimes when I think about being with them. Nervousness or emptiness? It might be...I'm an anti-social wreck whose never had a girlfriend. Anyway, I'm wondering if it's normal to be attracted to one gender more than the other at times. As I was more attracted to woman for a few days then back to men and it's like a never ending cycle. I want it to stay with both....Please help me, this feeling in my chest been with me since June and I've been dwelling on this since then. I remember talking to a girl who went through a similar situation as me during her years of growing up. Her talk actually made me feel confident and good about myself for the first time. Later that night, I fantasized being with a girl and really felt good. But as time went by, I haven't really felt the same again, which I think brought me to the conclusion that I may have a more emotional connection towards women. I've also compared my arousal to both genders by the hardness of my erection. With women, it's not as hard as it is with men but I still like it, I don't understand why I'm not as aroused and think I may have to take things like viagra or something.

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  • Gelmurag
    11 years ago | pl

    I don't consider myself gay, or straight, or even bi. I am what I am based on the mood of that day. I've been with both a woman and a male, and honestly the male was the best lover. But that has been challenged by a non-sexual female which felt like the only thing i ever needed in life. Basically I loved her, and didn't need sex to come close to the euphoria i had those 2 nights i was with a guy. Although I don't intend to have a relationship with a male, i've found physical attractiveness to be based on a similar scale for male and females. I like small, almost childlike qualities. If a girl has that, i'd prefer her. if a boy has that i'd prefer him.

    In your case, it sounds like you haven't had much of an emotional attachment with a female yet, and that may be scaring you away some. As an example : Your sad, and a guy friend gives you a hug, and a female friend just pats your arm. do this enough times, and you'd start to feel a connection with the male over the female. I'm not saying your normal, but it isn't that unheard of, and your certainly not alone.

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