How is not being attracted to someone being a commitment phobe? I could completely see you being against such a statement if the genders were reversed.
You are projecting out of your arse if you genuinely believe I think like that :P I treat genders completely equally. I believe a woman who looks for reasons to not date a man is also probably a commitment-phobe on some level.
People who are afraid of commitment often look for any reason to reject someone, because if they accept someone they'll have to face their fear. Commitment-phobes subconsciously rationalize their rejection of people by exaggerating flaws and ignoring virtues.
You randomly approach me on a story that has nothing to do with gender to covertly accuse me of sexism? Stop pigeonholing me as a sexist before even asking me to explain myself, and stop looking for a fight with me in general.
You base your opinion on two dates...Two, as if not being attracted to two people in a row is somehow proof of him being a commitment-phobe. Two, one of which he didn't have any attraction for.
Well forgive me, but that's the impression I get from you on these types of things, that if there is a woman to side with in a scenario, you're on that side. I've never seen you on the opposite. I've never seen you on the opposite side.
You're paranoid if you think I am always looking to pick a fight with you, you respond to me on the opposite side aswell multiple times.
That aside, your whole "commitment-phobe" idea is just absurd based on "two" dates, one of which he has no attraction to and the other as if you can't find someone to be attractive in a non-romantic way.
My opinion isn't based on these two dates, though. I'm basing it on this: "after doing this so many times I keep wondering to myself if I'm just looking for reasons to reject these women". Firstly, that's proof it's happened a lot more than twice. Secondly, in that quote the OP wonders himself if he is commitment-phobic (albeit using different words to say so).
Never? There are often stories posted by women who are uncomfortable with their partner masturbating or looking at porn, and I often comment to tell them they are wrong. When there are stories posted by a woman who has cheated and wants forgiveness, I often comment to tell them they are wrong. When it comes to individuals, I often comment to call out female trolls targeting male members of the community. I can only assume you have an extremely selective memory.
Approaching someone isn't picking a fight. Being combative and irrelevant is picking a fight. I am not combative when I approach you on IIN, and I only approach you about gender when there is already a discussion about gender in the thread or the thread itself is about gender. You are combative even on your approach, and this isn't the first time you've approached me when it isn't relevant.
I've been on the other side too though, where there's women who I really like and want to spend more time with but end up getting turned down. I'm not always the one doing the rejecting.
Am I being too picky?
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How is not being attracted to someone being a commitment phobe? I could completely see you being against such a statement if the genders were reversed.
Seriously, what the hell?
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You are projecting out of your arse if you genuinely believe I think like that :P I treat genders completely equally. I believe a woman who looks for reasons to not date a man is also probably a commitment-phobe on some level.
People who are afraid of commitment often look for any reason to reject someone, because if they accept someone they'll have to face their fear. Commitment-phobes subconsciously rationalize their rejection of people by exaggerating flaws and ignoring virtues.
You randomly approach me on a story that has nothing to do with gender to covertly accuse me of sexism? Stop pigeonholing me as a sexist before even asking me to explain myself, and stop looking for a fight with me in general.
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You base your opinion on two dates...Two, as if not being attracted to two people in a row is somehow proof of him being a commitment-phobe. Two, one of which he didn't have any attraction for.
Well forgive me, but that's the impression I get from you on these types of things, that if there is a woman to side with in a scenario, you're on that side. I've never seen you on the opposite. I've never seen you on the opposite side.
You're paranoid if you think I am always looking to pick a fight with you, you respond to me on the opposite side aswell multiple times.
That aside, your whole "commitment-phobe" idea is just absurd based on "two" dates, one of which he has no attraction to and the other as if you can't find someone to be attractive in a non-romantic way.
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My opinion isn't based on these two dates, though. I'm basing it on this: "after doing this so many times I keep wondering to myself if I'm just looking for reasons to reject these women". Firstly, that's proof it's happened a lot more than twice. Secondly, in that quote the OP wonders himself if he is commitment-phobic (albeit using different words to say so).
Never? There are often stories posted by women who are uncomfortable with their partner masturbating or looking at porn, and I often comment to tell them they are wrong. When there are stories posted by a woman who has cheated and wants forgiveness, I often comment to tell them they are wrong. When it comes to individuals, I often comment to call out female trolls targeting male members of the community. I can only assume you have an extremely selective memory.
Approaching someone isn't picking a fight. Being combative and irrelevant is picking a fight. I am not combative when I approach you on IIN, and I only approach you about gender when there is already a discussion about gender in the thread or the thread itself is about gender. You are combative even on your approach, and this isn't the first time you've approached me when it isn't relevant.
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I've been on the other side too though, where there's women who I really like and want to spend more time with but end up getting turned down. I'm not always the one doing the rejecting.