From what you've said here it seems like a stretch to be concerned that she's an addict or a drug user, especially since you don't know her boyfriend's death was linked to drugs in the first place.
I'm using "commitment-phobic" fairly loosely. A relationship is a commitment, so shying away from a relationship is "commitment-phobia". Looking for reasons to reject people is the classic behaviour of someone who doesn't really want a relationship in the first place unless it's with someone who perfectly fits into your life. At least that's how it seems to me.
Am I being too picky?
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From what you've said here it seems like a stretch to be concerned that she's an addict or a drug user, especially since you don't know her boyfriend's death was linked to drugs in the first place.
I'm using "commitment-phobic" fairly loosely. A relationship is a commitment, so shying away from a relationship is "commitment-phobia". Looking for reasons to reject people is the classic behaviour of someone who doesn't really want a relationship in the first place unless it's with someone who perfectly fits into your life. At least that's how it seems to me.