I don't expect fireworks but I do expect to feel some kind of attraction. The other one took me on a hike where we ended up in a very secluded area at one point. I felt really awkward because I didn't want to do anything but I sensed that she took me there because she kind of did.
With this more recent one, I think she might have been on drugs or at least have used them in the past. I was worried about here seedy past more than anything.
This has nothing to do with fear of commitment. I don't think.
From what you've said here it seems like a stretch to be concerned that she's an addict or a drug user, especially since you don't know her boyfriend's death was linked to drugs in the first place.
I'm using "commitment-phobic" fairly loosely. A relationship is a commitment, so shying away from a relationship is "commitment-phobia". Looking for reasons to reject people is the classic behaviour of someone who doesn't really want a relationship in the first place unless it's with someone who perfectly fits into your life. At least that's how it seems to me.
Am I being too picky?
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I don't expect fireworks but I do expect to feel some kind of attraction. The other one took me on a hike where we ended up in a very secluded area at one point. I felt really awkward because I didn't want to do anything but I sensed that she took me there because she kind of did.
With this more recent one, I think she might have been on drugs or at least have used them in the past. I was worried about here seedy past more than anything.
This has nothing to do with fear of commitment. I don't think.
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From what you've said here it seems like a stretch to be concerned that she's an addict or a drug user, especially since you don't know her boyfriend's death was linked to drugs in the first place.
I'm using "commitment-phobic" fairly loosely. A relationship is a commitment, so shying away from a relationship is "commitment-phobia". Looking for reasons to reject people is the classic behaviour of someone who doesn't really want a relationship in the first place unless it's with someone who perfectly fits into your life. At least that's how it seems to me.