What a bunch of random internet people think about your sexual relationship with your husband is irrelevant. The only thing that matters is if the two of you are content with your arrangement.
I've always got a huge kick out of giving women orgasms and I've enjoyed that almost as much as having one myself, but I would never be happy in a sexual relationship that's as transactional as what you describe, and I would never accept such hard and fast rules.
You say in a reply to an earlier response that he "seems ok" with the arrangement. That makes it sound like this is not something the two of you have ever discussed. That's not good, and it's possible that a few months or years down the line, you may suddenly discover that he has definitely never been okay with giving a lot more than he receives. Talking about stuff is always much better than assuming everything is fine, because often things can seem to be okay in a relationship while actually resentment and frustration is building up under the surface. Then, one day, something triggers an explosion, very unpleasant things are done and said in the heat of the moment, and the relationship is never the same again.
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What a bunch of random internet people think about your sexual relationship with your husband is irrelevant. The only thing that matters is if the two of you are content with your arrangement.
I've always got a huge kick out of giving women orgasms and I've enjoyed that almost as much as having one myself, but I would never be happy in a sexual relationship that's as transactional as what you describe, and I would never accept such hard and fast rules.
You say in a reply to an earlier response that he "seems ok" with the arrangement. That makes it sound like this is not something the two of you have ever discussed. That's not good, and it's possible that a few months or years down the line, you may suddenly discover that he has definitely never been okay with giving a lot more than he receives. Talking about stuff is always much better than assuming everything is fine, because often things can seem to be okay in a relationship while actually resentment and frustration is building up under the surface. Then, one day, something triggers an explosion, very unpleasant things are done and said in the heat of the moment, and the relationship is never the same again.