Am i being abused?

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I just moved back into my house after my first year of college. Since I've been back, I feel as if I haven't stopped fighting with my mother. She tells me things like "You never loved me." "You're too angry. I'm afraid of you." "You never do anything for me." "You're so selfish."

Slowly, I'm beginning to realize that this has been a pattern for most of my teen life. Now, though, I'm an adult and I'm thinking that this has affected the person that I have become. Yes, I yell and fight with her, but I have never hit her the way she has hit me, and I have tried to go out of my way for her just to keep her from screaming and lashing out at me.

I don't know if this behavior is typical for a mom who has to live with her adult daughter or if I really am such an angry person that I force her to attack me. Is this normal?

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago | pl

    your mother may have an undiagnosed mental issue

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    She hits you? Thats not normal. It sounds like she might need counseling if she's that angry of a person.

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  • Neswangy123
    12 years ago

    You need to know the only person in this life need u to better then any one els is your mom . U need to understand her more . Maybe she not talking nice but for sure she loves you . U will never understand her feeling until u have baby . Life is to short . Show your mom your love and never hirt her . Remember she been carried u 9 month . You r a sweet . I am sure u understand me . Lol good luck

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I think this is stupendiously normal! I go to school with many children who's mothers and fathers tell them "I don't love you!!" all the time, I have a family very close and have never faught verbally, or physically. IIN for me (it isn't normal) just because I come from a loving family.
    So this is normal, for a lot of people just go to counseling with your mother, where there is a person there to cool you two people off.
    I hoped it helped!
    -Chocolate_paws_15

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      I love your username xD

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  • teknohippy
    12 years ago

    most of these poeple are right. try not to let her get to you and seriously move the fuck out before one of you does something you regret. get a job or a friend or a family member and get out!!!!

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  • GnR66627
    12 years ago

    She's just taking her own frustrations out on you. Maybe she's resentful that you are getting more independent. NOT YOUR FAULT. The best thing to do if calmly talking doesn't work, is to just move out and be on your own. Honestly, that relationship will probably improve if you aren't living together.

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  • instazombiinaboxx
    12 years ago

    She is projecting her own issues onto you. Clearly, she's the unloving one. She's the angry one. She's the selfish one.

    You don't need that right now. What you need is a boost in confidence and self-esteem. You've just started college. She should be more supportive and encouraging and tell you how proud of you she is. That's what a normal mother would do.

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    no, that's not normal behavior. she has a definite anger problems. maybe you both should go to family counseling.

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  • ProudlyOneHundred%
    12 years ago

    Consider parenting classes. It's also verbal abuse, which I also went through.

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  • sweetheart7
    12 years ago

    Sounds like your Mother doesnt know how to control her anger. Also sounds like she has some self esteem issues that contribute to the lashing out. I think she needs councling as well

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