If you use you friends in that you hang around them because they make you feel better - whether you enjoy their company, want to feel normal, or whatever, then there is nothing wrong with that. That is the nature of all relationships. However, if you use your friends in that you exploit them for your own gains in ways that are damaging to them then that may be a little despicable, yes, because that hurts.
About 1% of people are sociopaths, that is they are emotionless and do not care about other people. That said, THERE IS NO WAY YOU ARE A SOCIOPATH. It is very clear that you feel remorse and guilt....for something. Perhaps it would help if you told us what. But in any case, you probably aren't doing anyone any favours by loathing yourself for whatever it is. Learn from your mistakes. Don't repeat them. That is all you can do. That is all anyone can do. That is more than most people do. If you didn't actually do anything and have only thought about it, then we all have pretty horrid thoughts, but it's those that we act on that count, so no worries.
I would also like to address how you feel like you cannot trust anyone, I feel like you can't relate to them either, no? That is also normal. Right now, I personally have no one to confide in but my mother who gives horrid advice, and a friend who I don't think really wants to hear about my shit and would probably judge me anyway - because that's just what people do. Trust takes time to build. Some people automatically feel comfortable around other people automatically, but for people like you and I it takes time to build trust and it can be very lonely while your in that process. Maybe talk to a psychologist? You can trust them because they have almost certainly heard worse and your relationship with them is very nonpersonal and confidential.
am i bad person and using my friends?
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If you use you friends in that you hang around them because they make you feel better - whether you enjoy their company, want to feel normal, or whatever, then there is nothing wrong with that. That is the nature of all relationships. However, if you use your friends in that you exploit them for your own gains in ways that are damaging to them then that may be a little despicable, yes, because that hurts.
About 1% of people are sociopaths, that is they are emotionless and do not care about other people. That said, THERE IS NO WAY YOU ARE A SOCIOPATH. It is very clear that you feel remorse and guilt....for something. Perhaps it would help if you told us what. But in any case, you probably aren't doing anyone any favours by loathing yourself for whatever it is. Learn from your mistakes. Don't repeat them. That is all you can do. That is all anyone can do. That is more than most people do. If you didn't actually do anything and have only thought about it, then we all have pretty horrid thoughts, but it's those that we act on that count, so no worries.
I would also like to address how you feel like you cannot trust anyone, I feel like you can't relate to them either, no? That is also normal. Right now, I personally have no one to confide in but my mother who gives horrid advice, and a friend who I don't think really wants to hear about my shit and would probably judge me anyway - because that's just what people do. Trust takes time to build. Some people automatically feel comfortable around other people automatically, but for people like you and I it takes time to build trust and it can be very lonely while your in that process. Maybe talk to a psychologist? You can trust them because they have almost certainly heard worse and your relationship with them is very nonpersonal and confidential.