Am i a lesbian?

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I am attracted to girls but i'm really girly and i need a person that kind of replaces a boyfriend. I don't know if this is understandable but i know many beautiful women and i just can't be attracted to them because they are straight and girly. I couldn't possibly fall in love with them. I just see them as any other straight girl would. But when i meet a girl that dresses sort of boyish (not the ones where you can't tell the gender just a little edgy and androgynous)that has this gay vibrations (lol?)i go crazy!I had some boy crushes but i could not possibly see myself dating them, i was just impressed by their looks and charm. I find the idea of me kissing a guy and having a boyfriend slightly repulsive. I've had sex with both genders and i found lesbian sex kind of boring and awkward even tho i was really in love with the girl. sex with a guy was kind of distant (we didn't kiss and there was no attraction) but it felt so much more connected and satisfying (technically). On the other hand straight porn turns me on but i really couldn't have sex with a guy. i mean i had it but it was kind of impersonal, if we actually ''made love'' i would probably be grossed out and run away at some point. i can only see myself with a woman. I feel like i'm going to stay single for the rest of my life because of my weird sexual preference. thanks for comments xx

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    One of my best friends happens to be the "edgier androgynous" type of lesbian, and you wouldn't believe how many girls are attracted to her! The girl has better luck at the bar than most guys when we go out!

    Seems to me like you are a lesbian, if not at least bi, and the edgy androgynous look is your type!

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    • TerryVie
      11 years ago

      ^ this.

      Having A-cups and a petite build myself, i sort of play on that look too. I'm not tall enough etc. to be "truly" androgynous, but i like it, and it seems to work well...as the captain said.

      As for your sexual orientation: I consider myself a lesbian(or, more accurately, homoflexible) as i only ever felt romantic attraction ot other women. I only ever had satisfying relationships with other girls, and am in a happy (open) partnership with one now.
      But for sex, i still enjoy to have "regular" intercourse with changing male partners now and then. I am just using them to satisfy my "needs", so to say. This is an equal-gender world we live in, after all ;)

      I personally don't find much joy with strapons, neither wearing them nor being penetrated by them. It just feels too different from the real thing somehow, but maybe using such toys could spice up sex life for you? There's dual-sided strapons with vibrations, meaning one on the inside, one on the outside, those ARE made for lesbians that still want penetration(and bi girls, and girlfriends of bi-curious guys that want it in the backdoor)...but hey, work with what you got ;)

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      • Captain_Kegstand
        11 years ago

        Well spoken from someone much more knowledgeable on the topic then myself!

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  • iisabel
    11 years ago

    i think you might be gay, and your sexual experiences just happened to be with people you weren't very sexually attracted to. it didnt really have to do with their genders, just them as people. try to not think about people in terms of gender. go after the people youre attracted to and see what happens!

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