This is not normal, of course. What you did was incredibly wrong and very predatory. But I DO give you the benefit of the doubt, as you felt guilty about it, which is good, because you have the sense, internally, to know this was a very wrong act. If she'd woken up, or caught you, you'd have a sexual assault/rape case. I do believe you should be 'reported', like above stated. Only because some form of fear/repercussion may be the only thing that can stop you from doing this again. I feel bad for you (and the victim) at the same time.
I completely understand sexual desire and it's intense power over the mind (especially men's minds) I, as a VERY sexual female, have been in those intense moments, feeling 'too turned on', to the point of making a mistake; having sex, with someone I really didn't want to and while sort of dating someone (it wasn't serious, or official. But still wrong of me and I felt guilty and as if it were cheating) even though I told him what I'd done, he didn't end things--I had to, knowing I wasn't ready to commit. Back to your situation, like I said, sexual desire/urges are natural and yes, will often take you to a mental place you feel 'isn't you'.. Because obviously the innate urge comes and takes over (and takes the wheel, so to speak)
You're not a 'bad' person, but what you did was a bad act. It's good you regret it, but that's the only 'good' thing, here; it's very telling of your potential predatory character that you LEAPED into the situation to take advantage of someone/technically RAPE them, the first chance you had and saw an opportunity. You have no right to lurk into someone's room while they sleep and masturbate/rape them. To the moron above, claiming she was "awake", don't be so moronic, vapid and disgusting. I personally know a friend who sleeps so deep, my friends and I have played the most moronic 'pranks' just to see if she'd wake up. Louds sound/physically prying, innocent though. As well as my best friend used to jokingly try and go down on/try to have intercourse with his gf to 'wake her ass up; morning wood' and she'd sleep right through it. Difference is SHE KNEW about this, not just afterwards, he'd force her to wake up to realize what he wanted.. it was funny to him/her/everyone the story is told to.
To be violated in your sleep by someone you obviously do not have any relationship/even a friendship with, stranger, relative, etc
That's rape, even if one were awake and felt scared to speak up, it's unwanted. The exciting thrill you want to believe that was there is your own perversion. Slight hints one is awake/could wake, would indicate 'yes', or even show interest. But being that they didn't have even a great/close friendship, obviously she wouldn't even go out of her way and date--at the least--with this person. With such easy accessibility? and being her brother's friend? All girls know that's the easiest attempt-a-date, if desired. Still. So very beyond the point..
OP: If a man crept into your room, while you slept, and fingered your ass while you slept, you'd maybe 'not know', in deep sleep, but ignorance isn't always bliss. If someone molests anyone while the victim is sleeping, that guilt/shame is on the shoulder of the offender and it may become a bad desire/habit you can develop and act on MORE -- and turn you into a very 'bad' person and you'll not like the karma of prison and men raping YOU/making you THEIR form of release, with no regard of your feelings, body, safety etc
I am not chastising you, still, regardless of the gravity of this act, because I feel your guilt may have been real, meaning you have your senses--somewhat--and can grasp what you did/have the potential to stop. Find a way to qualm over committing an act of rape. Which you did. Do something conducive, if not apologize (which is unlikely) try to control yourself NOW and always.
Really take in the fact that prison isn't a joke and mistakes, there's no undo button.. You've done something you should be jailed for.. and maybe even consider something as ridiculous (seeming) as you'll have a daughter one day.. Think of how you would react if someone does this the future 'her'.. I know a lot of men who constantly explain they are so overprotective of their daughters, because "I know what I did/was like at that age" and seriously suffer with pint up regrets, still, because mentally it's all caught up to them and they fear their daughter will endure something or someone, like they once were/have happen to their daughter what THEY did. It's a bad cycle. But deep down, you know what you did and always will. Punishment, if not caught, can get you still. Your mind can be the worst prison, often times.
There's repercussion to your action(s).. Now, if you don't squash the desire or genuinely regret taking advantage of people, you'll become a bad person. Bad things follow suit with bad people.
Am i a bad person if i fingered my friend while she was sleeping ?
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This is not normal, of course. What you did was incredibly wrong and very predatory. But I DO give you the benefit of the doubt, as you felt guilty about it, which is good, because you have the sense, internally, to know this was a very wrong act. If she'd woken up, or caught you, you'd have a sexual assault/rape case. I do believe you should be 'reported', like above stated. Only because some form of fear/repercussion may be the only thing that can stop you from doing this again. I feel bad for you (and the victim) at the same time.
I completely understand sexual desire and it's intense power over the mind (especially men's minds) I, as a VERY sexual female, have been in those intense moments, feeling 'too turned on', to the point of making a mistake; having sex, with someone I really didn't want to and while sort of dating someone (it wasn't serious, or official. But still wrong of me and I felt guilty and as if it were cheating) even though I told him what I'd done, he didn't end things--I had to, knowing I wasn't ready to commit. Back to your situation, like I said, sexual desire/urges are natural and yes, will often take you to a mental place you feel 'isn't you'.. Because obviously the innate urge comes and takes over (and takes the wheel, so to speak)
You're not a 'bad' person, but what you did was a bad act. It's good you regret it, but that's the only 'good' thing, here; it's very telling of your potential predatory character that you LEAPED into the situation to take advantage of someone/technically RAPE them, the first chance you had and saw an opportunity. You have no right to lurk into someone's room while they sleep and masturbate/rape them. To the moron above, claiming she was "awake", don't be so moronic, vapid and disgusting. I personally know a friend who sleeps so deep, my friends and I have played the most moronic 'pranks' just to see if she'd wake up. Louds sound/physically prying, innocent though. As well as my best friend used to jokingly try and go down on/try to have intercourse with his gf to 'wake her ass up; morning wood' and she'd sleep right through it. Difference is SHE KNEW about this, not just afterwards, he'd force her to wake up to realize what he wanted.. it was funny to him/her/everyone the story is told to.
To be violated in your sleep by someone you obviously do not have any relationship/even a friendship with, stranger, relative, etc
That's rape, even if one were awake and felt scared to speak up, it's unwanted. The exciting thrill you want to believe that was there is your own perversion. Slight hints one is awake/could wake, would indicate 'yes', or even show interest. But being that they didn't have even a great/close friendship, obviously she wouldn't even go out of her way and date--at the least--with this person. With such easy accessibility? and being her brother's friend? All girls know that's the easiest attempt-a-date, if desired. Still. So very beyond the point..
OP: If a man crept into your room, while you slept, and fingered your ass while you slept, you'd maybe 'not know', in deep sleep, but ignorance isn't always bliss. If someone molests anyone while the victim is sleeping, that guilt/shame is on the shoulder of the offender and it may become a bad desire/habit you can develop and act on MORE -- and turn you into a very 'bad' person and you'll not like the karma of prison and men raping YOU/making you THEIR form of release, with no regard of your feelings, body, safety etc
I am not chastising you, still, regardless of the gravity of this act, because I feel your guilt may have been real, meaning you have your senses--somewhat--and can grasp what you did/have the potential to stop. Find a way to qualm over committing an act of rape. Which you did. Do something conducive, if not apologize (which is unlikely) try to control yourself NOW and always.
Really take in the fact that prison isn't a joke and mistakes, there's no undo button.. You've done something you should be jailed for.. and maybe even consider something as ridiculous (seeming) as you'll have a daughter one day.. Think of how you would react if someone does this the future 'her'.. I know a lot of men who constantly explain they are so overprotective of their daughters, because "I know what I did/was like at that age" and seriously suffer with pint up regrets, still, because mentally it's all caught up to them and they fear their daughter will endure something or someone, like they once were/have happen to their daughter what THEY did. It's a bad cycle. But deep down, you know what you did and always will. Punishment, if not caught, can get you still. Your mind can be the worst prison, often times.
There's repercussion to your action(s).. Now, if you don't squash the desire or genuinely regret taking advantage of people, you'll become a bad person. Bad things follow suit with bad people.
Don't.