Am i a bad person for doing this?

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So I just got out of a relationship where i was completely dissatisfied, it was long distance, he was immature, the intimacy was horrible, he left his job and never told me and expected me to buy him booze all the time. Anyways so I broke things off and my moms best friend (who's our house sitter) came over to meet my new puppy, she brought her son with her who I had a massive crush on in Highschool over and we caught up with things. I got a message from him tonight asking if I want to go to the local fair with him tomorrow and I said yes of course. Does this make me a shitty person? I'm not planning on jumping right into a relationship with him but I mean he was my crush so of course I'm not going to say no.

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Whatintarnation

4 years ago | pl

This sounds like the plot to a Hallmark movie.

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- donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
  
  4 years ago
  
  she needsta be a fashion magazine writer in the big city who comes home to vermont for christmas first
  
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  - leggs91200
    
    4 years ago
    
    Does vermont even really exist?
    
    It reminds me of this commercial I saw the other day about vacationing in Ohio.
    Yeah, Ohio. How exciting.
    
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    - donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
      
      4 years ago
      
      vermont or ohio theres gonna be banjo players in the woods thats for sure
      
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  - McBean
    
    4 years ago
    
    I'll bet that new puppy had a prissy red silk collar that looked good on-camera.
    
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[Old Memory]

4 years ago | pl

Nah, you're not a bad person. It isn't a requirement to remain miserable for a certain amount of time after getting out of a bad relationship. If you're ready to move on then go for it. Enjoy the fair.

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Doesnormalmatter

4 years ago | pl

What what? You out of a bad relationship and reunited with an old crush. Sounds fantastic to me! Why are you so concerned?

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- strawberryfieldsforever
  
  4 years ago
  
  I'm just concerned people in my life will judge me for "moving on" so quickly. Even though I'm not dating this person... I hope to eventually though.
  
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  - Boojum
    
    4 years ago | pl
    
    People who judge others need to learn to mind their own fucking business. I suggest you need to learn that it's your life, and you have the right to live it as you wish.
    
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    4 years ago
    
    The people who judge you for this stuff are jerks who are not worth your time.
    
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  - Doesnormalmatter
    
    4 years ago
    
    Well if they judge you for this, fuck them. Go right ahead and start dating.
    
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Cuntsiclestick

4 years ago

As long as this person isn't being used/is a rebound, you're fine. You're not a bad person.

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- strawberryfieldsforever
  
  4 years ago
  
  I couldn't fathom using anyone
  
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  - Cuntsiclestick
    
    4 years ago
    
    Then it's perfectly fine and there's nothing to worry about.
    :)
    
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chuy

4 years ago

Yes normal/ no to bad person.

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RoseIsabella

4 years ago

You are not a shitty person, and anyone who thinks you are is an asshole! I'm happy for you that you get the go out with this nice guy that you used to have a crush on when you were younger; good for you!

Also I'm happy, and proud of you for dumping the user/loser guy who sounds like a piece of shit, and a waste of your time.

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- strawberryfieldsforever
  
  4 years ago
  
  Thank you Rose!
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    4 years ago
    
    You're more than welcome!
    
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[Old Memory]

4 years ago

There’s nothing wrong with that. Do what’s best for you and go enjoy someone new. I moved on fast in my relationship. My last one was fucking toxic I was very unhappy. Toward the end I was already feeling like I was single and I really wanted to move on and then he swooped in with a I don’t love you anymore but lead you on shit. It was all sorts of fucked up. Anyway I wanted to be happy and spend my time with someone ik would treat me well. Hours after my break up I slid in my current boyfriends dm’s. 2 weeks later we were a thing. I’ve been friends with him since 6th grade and now been with him for 3 years. Happiest I’ve been. So I’ve been there too. But who cares what others think you do you and do what’s best. Your life is noones business but your own.

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Uncle_Hatty

4 years ago

It doesn’t make you a shitty person but are you sure you are emotionally stable to get into another relationship? If not, take time to heal and explain to your crush that you need time.

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jethro

4 years ago

No you are not.

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ToffeeMe

4 years ago

Well there is a 3month rule in every relationship. But, theres nothing wrong with what you are doing right now. Just make yourself always happy.

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BabyGirl6969

4 years ago

Bitch you are a single woman. You can do whatever you want.

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Boogienights

4 years ago

Yes youre a bad bad girl and bad girls go straight to hell! 😂

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[Old Memory]

4 years ago

The relationship was shitty, so there's nothing wrong with moving on from it without caring too much. Some people say rebounding is unhealthy, though, but there's no moral problem with it imo.

The previous relationship has been terminated. Do people expect you to stay in mourning even if you wanted it over?

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dimwitted

4 years ago

How is this an issue? You are both single.

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- strawberryfieldsforever
  
  4 years ago
  
  I know my one friend in particular is going to get on my case about it and spread rumours about me. But the two of us being together isn't really the issue
  
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  - McBean
    
    4 years ago
    
    Let us know how your new storybook romance unfolds.
    
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    - strawberryfieldsforever
      
      4 years ago
      
      I will
      
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      - McBean
        
        4 years ago
        
        Thanks.
        
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  - bbrown95
    
    4 years ago
    
    It doesn't sound like that friend is a true friend if they spread rumors about you. But, who cares what that friend thinks, or what the people who might side with them think? Life is too short to miss out on opportunities over people and their silly games.
    
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