Am i a bad person for doing this?

So I just got out of a relationship where i was completely dissatisfied, it was long distance, he was immature, the intimacy was horrible, he left his job and never told me and expected me to buy him booze all the time. Anyways so I broke things off and my moms best friend (who's our house sitter) came over to meet my new puppy, she brought her son with her who I had a massive crush on in Highschool over and we caught up with things. I got a message from him tonight asking if I want to go to the local fair with him tomorrow and I said yes of course. Does this make me a shitty person? I'm not planning on jumping right into a relationship with him but I mean he was my crush so of course I'm not going to say no.

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  • This sounds like the plot to a Hallmark movie.

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  • Nah, you're not a bad person. It isn't a requirement to remain miserable for a certain amount of time after getting out of a bad relationship. If you're ready to move on then go for it. Enjoy the fair.

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  • What what? You out of a bad relationship and reunited with an old crush. Sounds fantastic to me! Why are you so concerned?

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    • I'm just concerned people in my life will judge me for "moving on" so quickly. Even though I'm not dating this person... I hope to eventually though.

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      • People who judge others need to learn to mind their own fucking business. I suggest you need to learn that it's your life, and you have the right to live it as you wish.

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      • The people who judge you for this stuff are jerks who are not worth your time.

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      • Well if they judge you for this, fuck them. Go right ahead and start dating.

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  • As long as this person isn't being used/is a rebound, you're fine. You're not a bad person.

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  • Yes normal/ no to bad person.

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  • You are not a shitty person, and anyone who thinks you are is an asshole! I'm happy for you that you get the go out with this nice guy that you used to have a crush on when you were younger; good for you!

    Also I'm happy, and proud of you for dumping the user/loser guy who sounds like a piece of shit, and a waste of your time.

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  • There’s nothing wrong with that. Do what’s best for you and go enjoy someone new. I moved on fast in my relationship. My last one was fucking toxic I was very unhappy. Toward the end I was already feeling like I was single and I really wanted to move on and then he swooped in with a I don’t love you anymore but lead you on shit. It was all sorts of fucked up. Anyway I wanted to be happy and spend my time with someone ik would treat me well. Hours after my break up I slid in my current boyfriends dm’s. 2 weeks later we were a thing. I’ve been friends with him since 6th grade and now been with him for 3 years. Happiest I’ve been. So I’ve been there too. But who cares what others think you do you and do what’s best. Your life is noones business but your own.

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  • It doesn’t make you a shitty person but are you sure you are emotionally stable to get into another relationship? If not, take time to heal and explain to your crush that you need time.

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  • No you are not.

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  • Well there is a 3month rule in every relationship. But, theres nothing wrong with what you are doing right now. Just make yourself always happy.

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  • Bitch you are a single woman. You can do whatever you want.

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  • Yes youre a bad bad girl and bad girls go straight to hell! 😂

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  • The relationship was shitty, so there's nothing wrong with moving on from it without caring too much. Some people say rebounding is unhealthy, though, but there's no moral problem with it imo.

    The previous relationship has been terminated. Do people expect you to stay in mourning even if you wanted it over?

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  • How is this an issue? You are both single.

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