Always sore after sex?

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So, I lost my virginity earlier back in January with my boyfriend and well, of course the first few times hurt, but afterwards it felt better and we could have sex.

However, it seems that everytime we have sex, I always get sore down there, sometimes to the point where even fingering/rubbing causes too much pain for me.

It's frustrating that I have to wait a day, or two for my vagina to stop being sore in order to have sex again, or to even masturbate. (Let's just say that I'm highly interested in sex.)

I don't understand what's wrong. We use lubricant, we do foreplay, and well, to my knowledge at least, my boyfriend isn't too terrible big. I mean, don't get me wrong, I love the size of his penis, it's about 6 inches and it's fairly thick. I know to some people that's considered small, but to me it's just the right size.

I'm jealous of couples who can have sex multiple times a day and not get sore. I want to fix it, but I don't know how to.
Any ideas?

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  • Dad
    7 years ago | pl

    Some girls do feel a lot of pain after sex, its just their body and normal.
    IF that's the case for you then you are still normal but you'll have to deal with it as you do.

    Since you said you were recently a virgin I think its more likely you haven't associated pleasure and pain in your mind yet. In that case its just a matter of maturity and probably should stop sex until you grow up a bit!

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    • iinotnormal
      7 years ago | pl

      That's solid advice, and, pretty much what I had to say too! Good job!!!

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  • orgasmio7
    7 years ago | pl

    Try using olive oil rather than a special product - it's the best lubricant - more lubrication, doesn't dry up, and cheaper!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago | pl

      Yes, but wouldn't that cause a yeast infection?

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      • orgasmio7
        7 years ago | pl

        No, there is NO yeast in olive oil - buy 'Extra Virgin' for maximum purity [no humour intended]. I stopped using KY jelly & replaced it with O.O. with my ex, & we both found it much better.

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  • ArchDemonX
    7 years ago | pl

    Stop having sex and masturbating for at least a week. Trust me. I know it will be hard but your vaginal tissue is raw from constant penetration. It needs to rest and heal before it can get used to intercourse every other day. Drink a galf a gallon of water a day if you can and do some gentle groin stretches. A womans vagina is very delicate, be sure not to over-do it. Lubricants should help a lot after a week or two of staying away from him. Here's an idea hopefully you can use, I did it with my ex when we were 19. For a little over a week, let him go down in you, for your pleasure, and you go down on him after, for his pleasure. After a week or two, your back enjoying intercourse without a raw, sore kind of feeling.

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  • iinotnormal
    7 years ago | pl

    His height and your height have nothing to do with it.

    Could be your are too young, still developing in the nether region.

    Could be you have a condition or disease.

    I'd get the whole area inspected, and in the mean time, call it off liimits.

    Also, send your BF in for a checkup, see if he has anything he needs a shot for.

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  • Mrs_Hatake
    7 years ago | pl

    It may be that ur body is still getting used to having a lot of action down there, but I suggest you go check in with ur Gynae/OBGYN/GUM clinic/GP cos it could be that something medical is going on down there like a hymen that hasn't fully broken or an infection (yeast/std etc) or honeymoon cystitis.
    Good luck :)

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  • Darkoil
    7 years ago | pl

    It possibly could be an std like herpes or maybe just a yeast infection.

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  • Forestheart
    7 years ago | pl

    You probably know why hurts during the first few times. If you're under 20 you should wait until you're 21. If that's too much to ask change your lubricant, try water based lubricants. And you should know that nervousness courses the nerves to misbehave eventually causing vaginal pain(but from the sound of it I don't think you're nervous in any way).

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  • KingTermite
    7 years ago | pl

    You could have some... um... structural issues down there. You haven't mentioned any sort of past traumas so you might want to consult with your gynecologist instead of seeking answers from this band of halfwits.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago | pl

      Yes, I will. I have a OBGYN, so I'll ask about it.
      Although, I probably should of mentioned that I am rather petite, small and skinny, 5'3'' , so maybe the issue is that I'm small and well, my boyfriend is rather large, 6'1''.

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      • snarkygirl
        7 years ago | pl

        As to be checked for bacterial vaginitis and yeast overgrowth.

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      • KingTermite
        7 years ago | pl

        Perhaps, but not necessarily. I'm taller than that (and sizes are all as proportional as would be expected), and I've had shorter girlfriends than you and while in some cases there was some soreness from banging up against the cervix, they always noted it as "that good kind of sore" and it never stopped us from having multiple romps in a day.

        So, yeah, I think the Ob/Gyn is the way to go. And just do what's comfortable. I've known a few women that when they first become really sexually active they are more sensitive to everything, even clitoral stimulation, so it could just be a sort of breaking in period.

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  • iinotnormal
    7 years ago | pl

    Stay away from black dick...it is HUGE...will tear you in two!!! Get a guy with a smaller boner...I mean, not tiny, you need to FEEL it, but, certainly not a black dude.

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