Almost 20 and have only had one girlfriend?

I will be 20 years old next month and have only had one girlfriend in my entire life I was 19 and it only lasted for 2 months. I'm not a virgin and have kissed, but I still feel like a loser and like I am very behind. I feel hopeless around girls and I also never notice any girls that show an interest in me. Am I normal? is there any hope for me to find another girlfriend someday?

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  • mistyluvr

    Are you serious? What is so wrong with that?!!! You are only 20 years old!!!! Society today has really screwed up the perception of what should be normal out there these days. You have plenty of time. Women are not impressed with how many girls a guy has been with. They want to be the only one!! How great! If you end up getting married one day, then you won't have a bunch of emotional garbage hanging on to you from so many past relationships. You are actually in a better place than most people.

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  • ZiShu

    ive been a virgin until i was 19 yrs old
    my relationship lasted for 1.7 years
    now i am 23 years old, have been single for 3 years
    don't feel lonely, u'arent the only one like this
    at the same time its not a loser thing, sure it does feel lonely and depressing, but sometimes there are circumstances that keep us like this, such as careers and such
    im around girls all the time, i just chose to not be in relationship, nor do i chose to sleep with any, im worried bout me first before i get serious with a girl

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  • normalguy96

    just imagine actually being 20, still being a virgin, and never even having a girlfriend? am I normal?

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  • Jim_Pfoss

    Behind in what, exactly? How many sluts you can bed? Is there an official scoreboard somewhere?
    Stop worrying about whether you're good enough or if girls notice you. Notice them. There's nothing more complementary.

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  • Allistalla

    someone needs to give you a pat on the back , YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON AND A GOOD GUY GOOD JOB YOU ARE A HONOR TO US ALL ^^

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  • patriot071592

    I know the feeling dude. I had my first and only girfriend when I was 16. I broke up with her after a month because I lost attraction with her. I was mainly in a rush to be in a relationship so people my age could see for the first time that I got a girlfriend because I was jealous back then that I never had a gf and most people I knew did or had many before. You probably got it better than me. I never kissed my girlfriend or had sex and I'm 18 going on 19 now. We still have a lot of life left to find the true girlfriend of our dreams.

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  • AYN

    Ok if your nervous around girls
    That'll soon be naturally fixed

    If you feel no one's got interest in you, that doesn't matter
    That just means your neutral, not like you got no chance with them

    Although I don't have any idea how you got a girlfriend if your that shy against girls

    For me, I simply neglect getting one since it can be bothersome
    But im down for sex

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  • Alaskaraven

    Well, good for you. You're not a big man- whore. Makes you more valuable in my book.

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  • cucui

    dude when u say u havent met anyone interested in u recap cuz girls rarely ever just throw themselves at you
    learn to notice subtle signs maybe someone has been interested and u just cant tell
    and if they do just throw themselves at u theres a good chance theyre kinda loose/easy watever u call it:(

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    • Imsmarterthanyou

      Its normal man, I'm 19 and still a virgin. There's many reasons for this overall realize that you are still young, you have time to improve yourself and start approaching more girls.

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  • gaelicwolf

    I am 20 and have only been in one relationship before the one that I recently came into. You just need to remember that there are so many things you can make of yourself besides someones boyfriend.

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  • oquenbe

    i dont want to sound like an asshole but u need to get out there and meets some girls.........stay away from the easy ones they usually come with life long surprises lol oh dont be so gullable either they say theyll love ya forever but that never happens........check out the divorce rate

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  • MajorKusanagi

    I've heard of people older than you not even being kissed yet. Society puts a lot of pressure on us youngsters to be dating and flirting and all this crud, but it doesnt happen that way for all of us. I've had pretty bad luck with fellas myself, that's just the way it goes sometimes unfortunately.

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  • hotchickie81

    my brother didn't have a girlfriend until he was 23. they've been together for almost 2 years now and have a baby. hopefully they will stay toghether.

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  • kitsune16

    I'd say it's normal. Your only 20, no rush or anything.

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  • truly

    Not having a girlfriend does not equal loser. I know plenty of people who are smart, popular, handsome and who don't date. No-one would so much as suggest that they're losers.

    What's wrong with being single? More importantly, what's with the rush?

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    • BlackSheep1

      Well put, thank you for that advice. I just hate not having someone, I can't help it.

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  • iffenoxa

    the only one thing that is not normal, its ask those kind f stuff at your age dude.

    u have too much to live still. and is better for girls someone that is not too much used... u know what i mean right?

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  • JoeyAnne

    goodness, you're only 20! you're so young, dont worry about being behind, you've had sex already, whats to be behind about? the number of girlfriends you've had? who's counting? theres always hope hun.

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  • andrian007

    You're only 20, man, what are you talking about? You still have loads of time for these things. Girls have probably shown interest in you before, it's just that you've never noticed it. You can already take that important first step to winning a girl's heart; just be nice. Ask her how she's doing, talk to her and listen to what she has to say. The important thing is don't feel inhibited. If you like someone, talk to her and if things are looking good, ask her out on a date. Naure will then take its course. Good luck.

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