That's not how it works, really. Smart and funny are parts of someone's essence, while looks are just the shell - and it says nothing about a person's inner existence, beliefs, character, etc. How is valuing a person for what he/she is shallow?
Wow that's an excellent point. When you put it that way I think I'd have to agree now then that choosing someone based on their intelligence, humour, etc. probably isn't as shallow as on their looks. I do still think though that the only thing that really matters and that isn't the slightest bit shallow is how nice someone is, and that's also the only thing you can easily choose to be. I'm just trying to say it's a shame that there are so many wonderful caring people out there who are rejected because they're not intelligent or confident, and they can't just choose to be.
I guess I understand what you're trying to say. However, there is still a part of me that disagrees on the 'nice' part. You seem to be equating it to being good, as in having a good heart and nature.
Acting nice is easy, it's just how you ACT; while being good goes beyond that, it's how you ARE. Do you see the difference?
I see what you mean, but I'd have to disagree with it tbh. I think even if you're a sadistic psycho on the inside it doesn't matter, just so long as you only ever act nice. And vice versa, it's no good if someone thinks compassionate loving thoughts if they never do anything to help others. I think there's a quote that says something like "It's our actions that define us", I think that's true.
Hmm, not easy to agree on that one. If someone is "a sadistic psycho on the inside" it does matter!! They're a ticking bomb waiting to go off! I myself wouldn't risk it... lol
Ok, well that's an extreme example. But if someone was a complete bitch on the inside, but knew that it was wrong to think like that and acted the opposite of that, then it wouldn't matter what they thought.
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That's not how it works, really. Smart and funny are parts of someone's essence, while looks are just the shell - and it says nothing about a person's inner existence, beliefs, character, etc. How is valuing a person for what he/she is shallow?
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Wow that's an excellent point. When you put it that way I think I'd have to agree now then that choosing someone based on their intelligence, humour, etc. probably isn't as shallow as on their looks. I do still think though that the only thing that really matters and that isn't the slightest bit shallow is how nice someone is, and that's also the only thing you can easily choose to be. I'm just trying to say it's a shame that there are so many wonderful caring people out there who are rejected because they're not intelligent or confident, and they can't just choose to be.
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I guess I understand what you're trying to say. However, there is still a part of me that disagrees on the 'nice' part. You seem to be equating it to being good, as in having a good heart and nature.
Acting nice is easy, it's just how you ACT; while being good goes beyond that, it's how you ARE. Do you see the difference?
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I see what you mean, but I'd have to disagree with it tbh. I think even if you're a sadistic psycho on the inside it doesn't matter, just so long as you only ever act nice. And vice versa, it's no good if someone thinks compassionate loving thoughts if they never do anything to help others. I think there's a quote that says something like "It's our actions that define us", I think that's true.
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Hmm, not easy to agree on that one. If someone is "a sadistic psycho on the inside" it does matter!! They're a ticking bomb waiting to go off! I myself wouldn't risk it... lol
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Ok, well that's an extreme example. But if someone was a complete bitch on the inside, but knew that it was wrong to think like that and acted the opposite of that, then it wouldn't matter what they thought.
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Hahaha, okay, I give up. Let's just agree to disagree! :)