Honey, confidence is in your control - and something that's more important than haircuts and acne cream. It's harder to overcome simply because it's so important to not only your relationships with others, but in yourself.
I know it's in control from experience. I used to be dorky. I was embarrassed about my slight lisp, my acne, my crooked teeth, my poofy hair, and one day I decided that I wasn't going to be embarrassed to exist. I immediately acted the part of girls I looked up to. I walked tall, smiled wide, and dressed the way I wanted to with my hair in a full poof.
It was hard at first, yeah. I would internally panic and sometimes actually pardoned myself to have secret crying fits of discomfort. I shook as I delivered my speech to become class president, couldn't breathe when I asked someone out for the first time, and wondered every night why I kept pushing - but it worked. I'm in college commercials and I'm celebrating my three year anniversary with that boy now.
I'm still stereotypically unattractive - but it seems like people don't notice anymore. Boys actually like me. Hell, earlier I complimented someone's jacket and had to stop him from giving it to me. It's all because I decided to let myself freely exist - and you should too. That's all confidence is.
It just seems completely impossible sometimes though, like I may as well be trying to defy gravity. Still, thank you for that, that was some really inspirational advice.
Its difficult, but aren't all things worth doing? Here's a tip: sit down and think about who you want to be in an ideal world. Make that persona into a character. Play that character. It's hard, but do it. Do it in your home, to your friends, to your enemies; even when you don't want to. Eventually weeks pass, and you find yourself aligning with that persona until it becomes who you are.
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Honey, confidence is in your control - and something that's more important than haircuts and acne cream. It's harder to overcome simply because it's so important to not only your relationships with others, but in yourself.
I know it's in control from experience. I used to be dorky. I was embarrassed about my slight lisp, my acne, my crooked teeth, my poofy hair, and one day I decided that I wasn't going to be embarrassed to exist. I immediately acted the part of girls I looked up to. I walked tall, smiled wide, and dressed the way I wanted to with my hair in a full poof.
It was hard at first, yeah. I would internally panic and sometimes actually pardoned myself to have secret crying fits of discomfort. I shook as I delivered my speech to become class president, couldn't breathe when I asked someone out for the first time, and wondered every night why I kept pushing - but it worked. I'm in college commercials and I'm celebrating my three year anniversary with that boy now.
I'm still stereotypically unattractive - but it seems like people don't notice anymore. Boys actually like me. Hell, earlier I complimented someone's jacket and had to stop him from giving it to me. It's all because I decided to let myself freely exist - and you should too. That's all confidence is.
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It just seems completely impossible sometimes though, like I may as well be trying to defy gravity. Still, thank you for that, that was some really inspirational advice.
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Its difficult, but aren't all things worth doing? Here's a tip: sit down and think about who you want to be in an ideal world. Make that persona into a character. Play that character. It's hard, but do it. Do it in your home, to your friends, to your enemies; even when you don't want to. Eventually weeks pass, and you find yourself aligning with that persona until it becomes who you are.
I wish you luck!
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I've heard of that strategy before but I've never given it a go, but I will now then. Thank you.