The traits that you mentioned can be changed to a large extent by a person's own efforts.
Your looks are just what you were born with, and there's no really changing that except through surgery
Intelligence:
It's often judged by how generally knowledgeable and quick-witted someone is. Knowledge can be acquired by being studious, observant, hard-working and willing to learn.
The more knowledge you have, the easier it is to rapidly bring it to the surface and use it resourcefully- quick-wit.
Those are things within your control. A lot of smart people may not physically have better brains than normal, or even perceived stupid people. It's their attitude towards others and education that makes the difference.
Confidence:
It's belief in yourself and your abilities, and being comfortable with them.
From my own experiences and knowledge of others', I've concluded that true self-confidence (not ego) is something that you have to earn for yourself.
Confidence can come from making yourself into the best person you can be- someone you can be proud of.
First, make a decision to accept areas that you don't like, but you can't improve upon, like disabilities or ugliness.
But what can you improve? Upon asking that question, you'll probably realize that there's a lot, and that's a good thing.
Work hard, develop skills, exercise and eat better if you're overweight, study if you feel stupid.
Funny:
Tbh, I don't know that much about this, but I think that it's associated with both confidence and intelligence.
To make good jokes, you'd need the wit to compose them, and the confidence to put yourself out there, despite the possibility that others won't find you funny.
On a physical and technical level, it is more shallow to prefer traits on the outside to those on the inside.
All that being said, I still find those "pure", "moral" girls to be somewhat annoying. They can be just as picky, so how much difference does it really make?
All attractive qualities in a partner are just as shallow as each other
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The traits that you mentioned can be changed to a large extent by a person's own efforts.
Your looks are just what you were born with, and there's no really changing that except through surgery
Intelligence:
It's often judged by how generally knowledgeable and quick-witted someone is. Knowledge can be acquired by being studious, observant, hard-working and willing to learn.
The more knowledge you have, the easier it is to rapidly bring it to the surface and use it resourcefully- quick-wit.
Those are things within your control. A lot of smart people may not physically have better brains than normal, or even perceived stupid people. It's their attitude towards others and education that makes the difference.
Confidence:
It's belief in yourself and your abilities, and being comfortable with them.
From my own experiences and knowledge of others', I've concluded that true self-confidence (not ego) is something that you have to earn for yourself.
Confidence can come from making yourself into the best person you can be- someone you can be proud of.
First, make a decision to accept areas that you don't like, but you can't improve upon, like disabilities or ugliness.
But what can you improve? Upon asking that question, you'll probably realize that there's a lot, and that's a good thing.
Work hard, develop skills, exercise and eat better if you're overweight, study if you feel stupid.
Funny:
Tbh, I don't know that much about this, but I think that it's associated with both confidence and intelligence.
To make good jokes, you'd need the wit to compose them, and the confidence to put yourself out there, despite the possibility that others won't find you funny.
On a physical and technical level, it is more shallow to prefer traits on the outside to those on the inside.
All that being said, I still find those "pure", "moral" girls to be somewhat annoying. They can be just as picky, so how much difference does it really make?