Intelligence is something you can help. Yes, being a member of a different socioeconomic status can give you a disadvantage/advantage. However, once you become a certain age you have the internet at your fingertips. From there It’s up to the individual to pursue higher level thinking. Also, intelligence is not shallow. You bet your butt I want a mentally capable person who can help support my future offspring.
Confidence is something also that someone can help. Granted, some people may start at different levels because of their skills, looks, etc. But confidence is something that first is built through self acceptance and I know plenty of guys with nothing going on for them that love and accept themselves. Confidence just takes time and practice. Also, how is confidence shallow? No one wants to be with an insecure or weak person in a relationship. How can I trust any decision or thought of someone who is never confident in anything? That would just be stressful.
Lastly, niceness is not the deciding factor for attraction. You’re coming off as one of those “nice guys” who gets mad when the girl doesn’t want to be romantically involved with you. Niceness is not the only component of a person’s personality. girls are trying to search for depth in a partner and you think all it takes is just saying your please and thank you’s.
Well I didn't say that you have no control over your intelligence/confidence, but yeah maybe I was little quick to say you only have as much control over them as you do your looks. Most people probably would be able to improve their intelligence and confidence more than they could their looks. Honestly though I do think it depends on the person. Some people could spend years working on those things and get nowhere, where as a simple makeover could drastically improve their looks.
Just because their unconfident in their decisions though, doesn't mean they're bad decisions. It's just that they unfortunately don't believe in themselves.
Nah I wouldn't get mad at anyone for not wanting to be with me, it's not their fault. No one (including me) can help who they're attracted to, and I've had to turn down people before. Well I think being nice is the only important quality for a person. For a partner though it's just unfortunate that we also need to be attracted to them.
All attractive qualities in a partner are just as shallow as each other
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Intelligence is something you can help. Yes, being a member of a different socioeconomic status can give you a disadvantage/advantage. However, once you become a certain age you have the internet at your fingertips. From there It’s up to the individual to pursue higher level thinking. Also, intelligence is not shallow. You bet your butt I want a mentally capable person who can help support my future offspring.
Confidence is something also that someone can help. Granted, some people may start at different levels because of their skills, looks, etc. But confidence is something that first is built through self acceptance and I know plenty of guys with nothing going on for them that love and accept themselves. Confidence just takes time and practice. Also, how is confidence shallow? No one wants to be with an insecure or weak person in a relationship. How can I trust any decision or thought of someone who is never confident in anything? That would just be stressful.
Lastly, niceness is not the deciding factor for attraction. You’re coming off as one of those “nice guys” who gets mad when the girl doesn’t want to be romantically involved with you. Niceness is not the only component of a person’s personality. girls are trying to search for depth in a partner and you think all it takes is just saying your please and thank you’s.
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Well I didn't say that you have no control over your intelligence/confidence, but yeah maybe I was little quick to say you only have as much control over them as you do your looks. Most people probably would be able to improve their intelligence and confidence more than they could their looks. Honestly though I do think it depends on the person. Some people could spend years working on those things and get nowhere, where as a simple makeover could drastically improve their looks.
Just because their unconfident in their decisions though, doesn't mean they're bad decisions. It's just that they unfortunately don't believe in themselves.
Nah I wouldn't get mad at anyone for not wanting to be with me, it's not their fault. No one (including me) can help who they're attracted to, and I've had to turn down people before. Well I think being nice is the only important quality for a person. For a partner though it's just unfortunate that we also need to be attracted to them.
I think you are spot on!