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Is it normal to be jealous of my bf watching porn? The fact that people watch it and often fantasize having sex with the person on the film bothers me. I don't feel like it's appropriate for my bf to fantasize about having sex with another woman and pretending that he's the one inside of her. I would expect him to feel the same way if it were me.
It's not unusual to be jealous of your partner for watching porn, but it's also not really reasonable to expect him to stop. If you don't want him to watch it or talk about it in front of you, ask him not to do that. If it's just a matter of what he's doing in his own time with his own mind, though, it's not really your business. You need to have adult boundaries in your relationship. Try to understand that what he fantasises about has nothing to do with his relationship with you.
I think most people in relationships fantasise about having sex with other people sometimes. It's normal to be attracted to other people while you're in a relationship. It's not unfaithful or inappropriate, it's just how most people's minds work. You don't have to listen to him talk about it, and you don't have to participate in it, but his masturbation isn't about you, it's about him.
I don't know. It's only porn. He may fantasize about having sex with the woman acting in porn but the next day I bet he can't even remember what she looks like. Porn doesn't mean anything, it's just a sexual relief. He won't feel emotions towards the actors whatsoever.
95% of men (whether or not in a relationship) watch it, so if you kick all those out you are basically left with asexuals and ultra-conservative religious.
Ask yourself this, if you applied for a porn job, would you get flat out rejected? If the the answer is a unanimous "yes", change that.
When you objectively know you're every bit as good looking as the girls in the porno, you'll feel much more confident and you won't have jealousy issues.
If you look good, feel good, are knowledgeable, don't need money, etc...
You become a goddess. Be an Alpha woman and you'll get an Alpha male. Be an Omega and you'll attract nothing but Omegas.
Edit:
When I say look like a porn girl, I mean like the top-level ones, not the lesser ones that went into it out of desperation.
Believe it or not, some of them joined out of their own accord because they know they are some of the best looking girls in the world and figured they'd capitalize on that fact.
Men don't fantasize about having sex with those people you know. They just watch and masturbate, that's all there is to it.
Also, even if he were, it's completely normal.
It's not like you never look at men, and have sexual feelings towards them.