Africa here i come!
I have fallen in love with an African woman. This feeling for this beautiful woman has hit me like a frigging ton of bricks. I'm a thirty something Caucasian male. Happily divorced. Father of three. The woman I'm speaking of moved into my apartment building about two months ago. She's very friendly (yet not flirtatious), and carries herself in a somewhat regal way. I find her to very exotic. Her accent drives me almost insane with desire for her. She lives alone in the apartment down the hall from mine. Having gotten closer, little by little, I finally found the nerve to ask her out for an evening. I pretended to have an interest in Nigerian food and asked her out to a very nice Nigerian restaurant I'd read about in the New York Post. I live in Brooklyn. The evening went very well. We capped it off by stopping at a cozy wine bar that I'm familiar with.
I said goodnight to her by giving her a mere peck of a kiss on her lips. Now what? I ask myself. If I push for sex on the next date (This coming Friday), will that scare her away? Does her culture dictate that we spend some more time getting to know each other before hitting the hay? I simply adore this woman, but I also respect her. I'm getting great signals that it's a go (you fellas out there know what I'm feeling), but I don't want to offend her by coming on too strong so soon. It's our cultural, and perhaps even racial differences that has put me in this dilemma. Or am I just being paranoid? This is all so new to me. And for her, too. She has admitted that. Anyone out there of African decent please help me out here. This lady has got my heart and soul. I don't want to mess everything up.