Affection

Is it normal that I have been with my boyfriend on and off for 8 years and we don’t show each other affection? We have never kissed, cuddled, held hands. Nothing. It has taken a toll on me tremendously. Over the years I’ve mentioned it and nothing. I thought maybe I needed too much, but recently had an affair with a man that showed so much affection naturally. It was very awkward to be with him. Even though that’s all I’ve ever daydreamed about.

Is It Normal?
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  • Leave him before it permanently messes you up. If you let something like this wear you down for long enough you will lose any spark of hope in your life.

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  • 8 years and nothing?

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    • That's insanity!

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      • Yea cause I know guys, cause I am one. We just wanna touch things, have our things touched, stick our things in things, kiss and make-out. Jeez if I was OP age again I would wear myself out.

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      • Gotta be a troll, how would this even happen in reality? You think after maybe 8 months tops, she would move on if she wanted affection that badly. But 8 years? I'm guessing either: arranged marriage, mentally ill, teenager, or troll.

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    • Yeah, nothing! I once told him I loved him and he said “ I love pizza”

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      • Well you teach people how to treat you so change your behavior. Also, dump his rude ass.

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      • Tell him you need a serious talk with him and tell him that you are sick of him being just friends. Spice it up in the bedroom or something. Or if he keeps on saying he loves pizza go fuck the other dude.

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      • LOL. sounds pretty normal to me.. Well apart from the not wanting sex thing, now thats just weird!

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  • Break up if true, and date the other man.

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  • I can't stand people like that.

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  • Maybe you should get with the guy who shows you more affection that or talk to your bf that it's problematic. I saying this from experience I was like your bf and tended to have connection issues with people especially those I have been in relationships with. Usually it ended badly for me but they usually would point out that it hurt them just as much. It's hard to put this in words rather then saying it in person but you get the point.

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  • Leave the dork. He was more like a distant friend, than a boyfriend. A woman needs to be appreciated every single day.

    But damn 8 years... Either you are the perfect wife material, or a troll. If it's the first one, someone is really gonna strike the jackpot with you.

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  • Dumb troll, unless you started dating at age 5 or are extremely religious or something. there is no way anyone can be that inept

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    • I dont think its a troll. I been w my female dog of a wife for 8 years too.

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      • I understand 8 years is possible and quite common to stay in a poor relationship, but in that whole time you never made physical contact in any way? like, NEVER?!

        That's what this OP is saying, "We have never kissed, cuddled, held hands. Nothing." the most they could have done was hugging. Unless that's just talking about romance, and they have at least fucked.

        Also...why are you staying?

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  • Don't go thru life wondering what's wrong with you. That answer is "nothing".

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  • Geez where have you been all my life. I love an affectionate woman lol how a man cannot enjoy some genuine affection is beside me. If a woman is not affectionate, it’s an immediate deal breaker. Doesn’t have to be over the top doting but a tolerable amount is always nice lol

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  • Yeah that isn’t your boyfriend it’s just a friend. Unless you fucked him then it’s friends with benefits.

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