Is it normal that I have been with my boyfriend on and off for 8 years and we don’t show each other affection? We have never kissed, cuddled, held hands. Nothing. It has taken a toll on me tremendously. Over the years I’ve mentioned it and nothing. I thought maybe I needed too much, but recently had an affair with a man that showed so much affection naturally. It was very awkward to be with him. Even though that’s all I’ve ever daydreamed about.