It is normally lust initially, and real love develops with time (and when you know his faults).
Its also normal to fall for someone who has another love interest in their life. My personal advise is that you need to find out if the other knows about you and your interest and activities (and background in this case).
I'm not going to judge a person for being part of a tiad, quad, etc. My personal rule is that all parties must know about the others (and accept that they will be part of a triad, quad, etc.) in advance of expansion of the group.
I'm poly myself and have had multiple Female partners most of my life - and they always knew about each other (and often met - if only once). Lies destroy relationships. There's no reason to lie about sex or sexual desires. The right partner will understand that (it's usually not wise to share all the details).
Advice, in love or lust
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Navigating relationships is never easy.
It is normally lust initially, and real love develops with time (and when you know his faults).
Its also normal to fall for someone who has another love interest in their life. My personal advise is that you need to find out if the other knows about you and your interest and activities (and background in this case).
I'm not going to judge a person for being part of a tiad, quad, etc. My personal rule is that all parties must know about the others (and accept that they will be part of a triad, quad, etc.) in advance of expansion of the group.
I'm poly myself and have had multiple Female partners most of my life - and they always knew about each other (and often met - if only once). Lies destroy relationships. There's no reason to lie about sex or sexual desires. The right partner will understand that (it's usually not wise to share all the details).
I wish you the best on this,