A lonely loner

I have been a loner for as long as I can remember, but maybe not the extreme loner-type. I can be social around people I can identify with, but overall, I do possess a great majority of loner traits.

I always wonder if there is anyone, who thinks, feels, and acts like me, out there. I have little confidence in myself and no talents. I do believe that I am suffering from depression, so my personality is like crap. I feel like a very uninteresting person. I feel worse when I see people doing things with their lives and become successful, when I have nothing to show for the past 23 years of my life.

I just want to know if anyone else feels this way, so I know that I am not the only one.

Is It Normal?
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  • Dude i feel pain,am the same too.trust me you are a good person just try your hardest to ignore those negative thought.

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  • When we compare ourselves to others, it makes us unhappy...don't do it. I'm 36 and have never been a social person, but when I do meet a friend, I become needy and only want that person for myself (don't want the competition). I end up smothering them until they're gone. Keep in mind that all people want to feel loved/liked and accepted. This helps to break down that fear wall. OR, be who you are...embrace it!

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  • This just helped me so much. I'm the same age, an that is how I have felt my whole life. Had a bit of a breakdown the last week and just today decided I need to do something. The comment above, thank you. And thanks for posting this story. I feel better knowing at least I'm not crazy.

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  • oh and btw, ignore the trolls. We've had a real bad troll infestation lately. And its so hard to exterminate them! lol but really, a lot of trolls

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  • OMG. You be ok. You are not alone. Personality wise - we all differ.
    easy for others to say get a life: if it was that easy we'd all be doing it. Everyones got different back ground. I sound like you. But I try and be nice and treat other people like you would have them to you. And they come to you. Take care :)

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  • shit! I am in the same situation. i am a demented, perverted person! Seriously! what the fuck!

    I never had a friend, never fucked! And I am 20 years old. Never been to a party! And I am in college. All i do is go to college, and come back--no social life at all.

    And i get jealous of more successful people. i see celebrities on the internet, and i get jealous! I want to be like them!

    i am currently writing a script i hopw will become a movie. i am fucked up!

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  • Trust me, I'm african american and I'm a goth. Where I live there are only hispanics and white people and they are not to fond of goths. I go to a community collage and NO ONE ever talks to me. I am really shy and talk to someone if they talk to me first but no one does. I'm 23 and I have no friends except my online friends...oh and my ex, so to me it's completley normal.

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    • WHAT THE FUCK. THAT IS THE WEIRDEST SHIT I EVER DID HEAR.

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    • 23 and still in community college? Bet you're still living at home with mommy and daddy. Sounds like you're very immature. At 23, you should be finished college, working and living on your own. You are spending too much time on websites like this one. Your parents need to kick you to the curb and stop enabling your immature, dependent lifestyle.

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  • Yeah I prefer just hanging with my man. Having one other person around with us is okay but I don't like to be social really. There is a set number of specific people i don't mind us hanging with otherwise I don't like it to change.

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  • All I can say is me too

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  • Im the same man sucks beacuse i jsut started uni/colledge. And my introvertnes/shyness is pissing me off major as i am having a hrd time meeting new people only met a few all year.

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  • Yes, I feel this way at time as well. This is just an introverted personality and there is nothing wrong with it. I tend to keep to myself also. Just because you are introverted, it doesn't mean that you don't have good traits as well. Try writing down things that you are proud of and try to dwell on these things. You could also write a list of things that you want to work at or change about yourself. Then you could work on these things to build your confidence. I know for me, it helps to write things down. Hope this helps.

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  • You are VERY immature. What you wrote sounds more like it should be coming from a 13-year-old, not someone age 23! You need to get out from under your parents, get a job, and GET A LIFE!

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