A break up that won't give up

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I'm 18 years old and my first real relationship started when I was 13. He was 14, he had a girlfriend and I was the girl who just wanted to be anything to him. We started dating a few months after we met. To say I was 13 and in love may sound completely surreal but I was in love. We were together until last December I was 17 he was 18. For a middle school relationship that started in eigth grade and lasted up until half way through my senior year was pretty impressive now that I look back at it. Our breakup was pretty ugly for the first few months but then we tried to be friends and that didn't work mainly because feeling like that just don't go away. The reason for all the backstory is because we have this mutual bond when it comes to south park(i know kinda juvenile) and he calls me every wednesday. My Question: Is it normal for me to, after almost a year, not be able to have a steady relationship, and to wait ANXIOUSLY for his call every wednesday, and then to cry knowing that he belongs to another girl?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Personally I think he likes the fact that you like him still and he's instigating it. Next time he calls don't pick up, or say oops sorry can't talk right now and hang up. It leaves him wondering like "does she like me anymore?" then he'll not be able to STOP thinking about what you guys had. (: just my advice. But just act like you don't like him anymore. And sorry about my username on this one:\

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  • Sabaky
    13 years ago

    Im not gonna write a long message just gonna put it simple and straight forward.

    You arent over him.

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  • BfingIToucher
    13 years ago

    I think I might put an end to the weekly phone calls. They will only extend these feelings you're having and not give you a chance to move on.

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  • PiAnt
    14 years ago

    You're so very young, that it's hard to understand, now, how much more of life you have yet to experience.

    Your previous relationship meant so much to you, and it's perfectly normal to feel so greatly over the loss of it.

    And, it's perfectly ok to cry about it, to get angry and upset. Everyone has and everyone does.

    When you find yourself really sad, depressed and upset, like no one and nothing matters at all or ever will, please allow your heart to whisper to you that everything will be ok in the end.

    Look into your heart. It tells you the truth. You have an enormous world to discover and you may well be hurt again, but, as your heart will tell you if you listen to it, everything will be ok in the end.

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  • Hitlerthejew
    14 years ago

    Damn that is really heart breaking :-(. I dont want that to happen to me though but im sorry to hear. My advice to u. Just keep your friends with u. Go out and just try and forget about him. I have a girlfriend and there are issues even after 3 years but i just cant imagine this happening to me. South park kicks ass!

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Yeah thats normal. Give yourself time. Try to move on when you can. You really, really deserve to have had more than one boyfriend in your life - not just one guy since you were 13. Its a big world.

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  • notTHEman
    14 years ago

    completely normal. i feel the same about my second ex gf. We didnt't date for long but we started out as really close friends, i would even say best. But now..we don't even talk. Now i'm 18 and she's 17 and even after i went out with another girl after the break up, i still can't NOT think of her.
    I guess when you were in love, your IN love.
    I hope everything works for you tho but in the mean time, ther's no guarantee that he'll get with you like that again, so just try to move on. Or if you feel it's right, try to redo the relationship status. but ultimately, it's your choice. Be the friend or be his ONE

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