"single 20 year old man yet to have a steady girlfriend"

I'm 20 years old and I've never had a steady girlfriend. I've dated and have had no luck in continuing to hang out with them. They always seem to blow me off. The last date I went out on was in February and the girl never expressed interest on the phone when I called her up after the date a few days after. So I tried to just keep it moving and not let it affect me so much. However, I am really at the stage where I am constantly down on myself and am always thinking about how I suck when it comes to women. It is so bad to the point where I'm beginning to think something is wrong with me and often feel inadequate when it comes to my appearance. When I go out and see pretty girls I often want to approach them but I tend to hold back due to fear of rejection and sometimes when I see other men walking with their girl I get jealous and ask myself why can't that be me. I'll see guys who appear to have the whole package, the swagger and the physique and sometimes I wish I looked diesel like those macho guys. It may sound gay, but I have looked at other men, not because I can picture myself having sex with them, but in admiration of how they look. I feel that sometimes I'm not hot enough or built. When I walk my head is often down. Also when I talk to girls, the conversation sometimes does not flow. I haven't had sex in a year. I hardly have any friends.

Is It Normal?
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  • Well you seem to put yourself down a lot. Maybe girls can subconsciously see that you lack confidence. Unfortunately its a double edged sword as you lack the confidence to ask girls out so you add to your low self esteem by holding back.

    First you need to realize that you are very handsome and a good catch. Then you have to find some guy friends if thats more comfortable. There are thousands of people with similar issues with socializing..all you have to do is look at this site. Find some guys that aren't going to compete with you but be a good friend. After a while, they can be your wingman and hopefully help smooth over those sometimes awkward conversations with girls.

    Believe me, those "diesel" guys you see are only that way because they decided to just go for it and be assertive. Girls will flock to them because they are seen as alpha and powerful. Personally I prefer more sensitive guys which is why my boyfriend is a giant nerd but every girl has her own preference.

    Try meeting girls in different places, places of worship, join a club/hobby group, etc. Patience and perseverance are key.

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  • Only 20 years old and complaining? You will have alot of more shit to worry about than relationship problems my friend

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  • Watch some porn and get a headstart, you virgin stud

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  • "I haven't had sex in a year".

    Wow. Sounds so rough, man.

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  • :O dont let her fall. Im surprised she didn't fall down the stairs

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