It's very understandable that you fear permanently losing him should telling him how you feel not work out as planned... It's the dilemma 99% of us have to go through when asking one out. But frankly, that's the only issue you should be worried about.
The rule is if you love someone... Go get them. If, and only if that doesn't work out, then let them go.
Seems to me that you're looking for excuses as to why you can't be together... The career, being friends with his ex, the manner he's changed. But all that is just relative crap that should be at the bottom of the 'to worry about' list.
You already know that though. That's why you posted it here. To be assured that giving up was the right thing to do. That even though the majority of marriages involve couples with 90 degree differing occupations, that even though people's *surface* nature changes over time (or just a temporary side effects of a divorce...) and that plenty of times, unrequited love does get an opening... It's totally pointless to try and make both of yourselves happy...
See the irony in the bias point of view? Cause in the end that's what it's about. Perspective.
It's been five years... He may say yes he may say no... One way or another, you need closure.
..... Yeah and don't think he's stupid letting you clean his house and laundry either...
IIN to still be in love with a guy after five long years?
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Honestly you aren't being fair with yourself.
It's very understandable that you fear permanently losing him should telling him how you feel not work out as planned... It's the dilemma 99% of us have to go through when asking one out. But frankly, that's the only issue you should be worried about.
The rule is if you love someone... Go get them. If, and only if that doesn't work out, then let them go.
Seems to me that you're looking for excuses as to why you can't be together... The career, being friends with his ex, the manner he's changed. But all that is just relative crap that should be at the bottom of the 'to worry about' list.
You already know that though. That's why you posted it here. To be assured that giving up was the right thing to do. That even though the majority of marriages involve couples with 90 degree differing occupations, that even though people's *surface* nature changes over time (or just a temporary side effects of a divorce...) and that plenty of times, unrequited love does get an opening... It's totally pointless to try and make both of yourselves happy...
See the irony in the bias point of view? Cause in the end that's what it's about. Perspective.
It's been five years... He may say yes he may say no... One way or another, you need closure.
..... Yeah and don't think he's stupid letting you clean his house and laundry either...
Now if only I took my own advice...